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aggie Thu 23-Mar-23 11:02:20

I am contemplating a 5 day trip involving a whole day bus trip to our destination, with our Seniors club
I wouldn’t think of it , but it leaves my Daughter free to go on her holiday without having to get me “ minded “
My mobility is poor and I am happier at home ,
If you think you would enjoy the trip gird your loins and head off , hotels are great at helping someone carry food from the carvery and stuff like that, it’s the travelling ! I was away in Scotland and got assistance, it was great , lovely people helping me and nothing was too much trouble

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 23-Mar-23 10:53:33

Irish Dancing was making a correction to her earlier post.

Caleo Thu 23-Mar-23 10:53:11

I would stay safely and comfortably at home. I dislike holidays., and don't need them even when my health is good.

When the climates are about to irretrievably break down pleasure flights are immoral and nobody should have holidays that involve flying.

Calendargirl Thu 23-Mar-23 10:51:12

IrishDancing

Fears are unfounded.

No they’re not.

Shelflife Thu 23-Mar-23 10:27:26

In your situation I would follow the advice on GN and have a holiday fairly close to home . That will build your confidence for going abroad at a later date. Your fears may be unfounded, but the anxiety it is causing may not be worth the holiday abroad. Good luck whatever you decide . If you decide not to go I hope you are in a post to cancel without too much trouble.

IrishDancing Thu 23-Mar-23 10:18:42

Fears are unfounded.

IrishDancing Thu 23-Mar-23 10:18:24

I would feel the same as you Fflaurie and I think Sarah has given good advice, anticipation is part of the experience. I hope that wherever you go you have a lovely time and your hopes are unfounded.

V3ra Thu 23-Mar-23 10:12:16

Why not keep your booking for now, but have a couple of trial run weekends closer to home in the meantime?

We went to a hotel last summer and the staff were very attentive to anyone who needed help at the buffet, they would carry a tray or fetch drinks.

The important thing if you need assistance is to ask, people won't intrude but won't want you to struggle and will be happy to help.

Smileless2012 Thu 23-Mar-23 10:01:45

Great suggestion Sarah; that's what I would do Fflaurie.

The after affects of lock down have left a lot of people with anxiety about 'getting back to normal' and your serious accident without, that is bound to have left you nervous about going away, especially abroad.

Book a short break close to home so you can get back relatively quickly should you need too and if you haven't done so already, talk this through with your H so he's aware of how anxious you are, so able to reassure and support you. flowers.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 23-Mar-23 09:59:11

That’s a good suggestion Sarah. I think I would be feeling as anxious as Fflaurie is, and that alone would spoil my holiday - as I recall, not having had a holiday for many years, the exciting anticipation is a big part of it.

annsixty Thu 23-Mar-23 09:57:59

That is very good advice Sarah I would advise the same.

Sarah75 Thu 23-Mar-23 09:55:37

Would it be better to try a short Hotel break in the UK first, so that you can test out your anxieties about the bed, the meals, etc?

Fflaurie Thu 23-Mar-23 09:52:41

I had an accident last year and seriously injured my back, I had had a bad back for years before, but this was serious, I ended up having neurosurgery on my back and need aids around the house to get around, and I now have to use a walker outside. I also had to retire early on the grounds of ill health. Anyway, we used to go away to a lovely hotel twice a year, but since lockdown, we havent been anywhere. We have booked to go back there in the Autumn, but I am scared witless about going. I know I can get airport assistance, but, I am so worried that the flight will aggravate my injury, the strange bed, getting meals from the buffet, sleeping on a strange bed and so on and on. Would you go, or would you stay in your safe home and have a holiday from home? Please be honest. Thank you.