How to start the difficult conversation?

dael with our affaits. I did proof read!

Crossed posts, GSM!

What about making an appointment for him and tell him the date.

My friend had to go to court to get what was rightly hers, because her very wealthy husband hadn't put his affairs in order, before he died suddenly.
Everything was in his name, what a mess.

When we updated our wills a few years ago, we also organised Powers of Attorney, both legal and medical.
It means our children should be able to dael with our affaits.

Put your foot down. If he needs to make a new will I expect you do too. Make an appointment with the solicitor and drag him there if necessary, or ask the solicitor to come to you and tell him when the arrangement has been made. It’s so unkind to family not to have an up to date will - tell him that too. I know your husband has been seriously ill but that’s no excuse for leaving your loved ones in the soft stuff.