I would welcome some wise words from the gransnet world.
When my mother died( we were estranged), as my sister was left alone she relocated to be near me and my family. She and my mother were very close, lived together. We kept in touch over the years.
She has renal failure snd needs dialysis. When she moved my husband and I viewed flats etc. When she moved we unpacked the removal van so she fidnt have the stress.
Recently I'm finding it increasingly difficult to be supportive. I understand that dialysis must be awful. However, I cannot support her when she refuses to go and the feels awful. Last week she said 'they're lucky I go at all'
Recently I went to hospital appointments to discuss transplantation. What hurt the most that ,the hospital is some distance, was that I didn't even get treated to a coffee.
I think lately she's pushing me. We were discussing transplant and I said leave some bedding out, it'll be nice when you come home. Her reply was 'oh yes and maybe you can deep clean the flat'
Get a cleaner!!
Finally, she's been saying if I can't get a lift to hospital, I won't go. I'm not paying fir a taxi. She has disability allowance.
She is not an invalid, goes to aqua 3 times a week. Also my husband gets infuriated as he thinks I'm being manipulated and my children remind me that I m not her carer.
Thanks for reading
