Birthday ideas for sister in law seriously ill

What about getting a photo book made for her. All her favourite family photos to look through. Failing that there's always flowers.

Thank you LauraNorder. I never knew that.

Blacktabby2, I'm sorry to hear the sad news about your SIL. My brother passed away recently after a long illness so I know how difficult it is to choose a suitable gift. One of the things I gave him was a cushion with a lovely message on it about brothers. He always had it near him and it has gone in his coffin with him. Perhaps you could choose something similar or, as someone else suggested, a nice soft throw.
notanotherbunchofflowers.com have some lovely gifts too.

Very true...never gave that a thought! Thankyou x

Thankyou everyone. Brilliant ideas xxx

What about some nice nightwear and maybe bed socks or slippers to help keep her warm, these maybe something she might need in the near future. If this is too near the knuckle then maybe a lovely bunch of flowers or, as others have said, some handcream or moisturiser.

Some lovely inspirational ideas on here for you. I would just caution against anything scented, even favourite perfumes are not nice when feeling nauseous or lacking appetite.
All the best to you and your sister in law.

I'm so sorry BlackTabby. I used to work in a hospice and patients and relatives loved Reiki.

My friends husband sadly had this too. She bought him a nice soft throw and it was ideal for all weathers. Also how about some lounge pyjamas. Nice and comfortable and she will feel dressed for any visitors.

hello my lovely Gransnetters. Thankyou so much for all your ideas. its really helped me. Much love to you all xxx

Time, time, time. How near to her do you live? How well do you get on with her? Give her a small gift that she will definitely use, such as hand cream. or flowers, but offer to spend time with her. Not as a voucher for a certain amount of time of course, but spend an afternoon going through photos together, go out for a meal or a coffee or to a park or some gardens.

A large, soft, pretty cushion to make her more comfortable when seated on the sofa/in bed. My mum used to love me rubbing luxury hand creams into her hands with a gentle massage. It was when we had our best chats. And some lovely flowers, or perhaps a beautiful plant, like an orchid, that she won't have to worry about changing water, or even watering it very often.

I took my late SIL some handknitted socks, some flowers and lovely handcream and some books I knew she would like. She already had loads of throws but they are a great idea.

I think the foot massage is a wonderful idea along with some good body lotion. I would love both these things, then a soft wrap to snuggle into and some pure wool socks to keep my feet warm would be the icing on the cake. You are a great SIL to be so caring.🩷

A lovely soft throw Amazon have lots. Nice body sprays and nice chocs

A manicure? Also think a soft throw and the audible things are good ideas.

Reflexology is lovely too.

Don't go for anything other than a very gentle massage as more vigorous massages are not good for cancer patients.

Gentle aromatherapy massages are enjoyable.

If you have somewhere near perhaps a reflexology session or as someone else suggested a hand massage, I used to work with cancer patients and they used to enjoy the relaxation therapies we offered, Reiki is another one that was very popular, alternatively a relaxation CD. and a weighted throw , some nice soft fluffy socks or some nice pyjamas .

Sad news, Blacktabby

A throw or soft lap blanket as LauraNorderr suggests as she might feel the cold even if other people feel warm.

Some lovely handcream, body lotion as her skin might become dry.

A very gentle aromatherapy hand and foot massage if you could arrange for someone to call?

I love Audible, it's wonderful when you can't face doing anything or can't sleep. So I'm with kittylester

So sad - nothing I can add or suggest. I hope you, she and all who love her, find some strength

Flowers can be very uplifting. Her favourite perfume?

I'm sorry about what your sil is going through. It must be so difficult for her, especially living alone. She is lucky to have a caring sil. This is just a thought but if she does like audio books or music, you might look into a nice pair of noise cancelling headphones. Nice ones are pricey but are soft and comfy over the ears and head (think Bose). They could come in handy in hospital environments too, blocking the constant noise. Depending on her tech capabilities she may need help initially getting them set up.
Best to you and your sil.

Something nice to look at? Whatever she would appreciate the most? Painting, photos, magazines, picture?