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Coloured hair at 70

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DollyD Tue 24-Oct-23 15:40:00

This has been preying on my mind since I spoke to a friend recently who has decided to grow out her blonde highlights and go grey.
It was just how she said it that I thought was a bit insensitive, as I am older and have a subtle caramel colour with a few highlights.
She said she’d made her mind up to grow her colour out as she’d been thinking that blonde hair at 70 was…..
she screwed her face up with a look of disgust. She then stated that two of our friends were doing the same.
I told her that I thought her hair colour suited her but she was adamant.
I don’t feel the same way, I love my visits to the hairdresser, I alway feel a boost after I’ve revived my cut and colour.
To me, it’s just making the most of myself, the same as putting a little makeup on and wearing stylish clothes.
It’s part of who I am.
What do others think about coloured hair at 70?

AreWeThereYet Tue 24-Oct-23 17:36:34

Callistemon21

^What do others think about coloured hair at 70?^

Mine hasn't gone grey yet - should I have it dyed grey as I'm over 70?

Absolutely 😆

I got asked last week what hair dye I used as it looks so natural - haven't been near hair dye for over thirty years. I'll be 68 soon and still dark brown so I guess I'll be joining you at the hairdressers in a year or two for a dye session. My hair is a few inches short of my waist and usually curly so I suppose I had better get it cut short at the same time.

Boz Tue 24-Oct-23 17:35:02

I have the "works" and have just passed eighty. I dislike grey in any form; hair, clothes and soft furnishings. It depresses me. Now white hair is a different matter and I think it is lovely.
If you want to go au naturel best to keep it short. Don't go all Mary Beard fgs.

Callistemon21 Tue 24-Oct-23 17:26:53

Dinahmo 😂😂😂
Although it wasn't funny at the time!

Dinahmo Tue 24-Oct-23 17:23:15

A good haircut is most important I think. When I was in my 20s and 30s I used to go to Daniel Galvin and always had a beautiful hair cut. After one such visit I was walking down Orchard Street to Oxford Street, admiring myself in the shop windows and walked straight into a lamppost. Luckily I didn't knock myself out.

Nowadays we have a French hairdresser who comes to the house and cuts my own and my DH's hair for 39 euros. My DH has silky white hair but none on top and so it takes her about 5 minutes. She cuts mine wet and doesn't use any product. We also get a free French lesson because we don't speak English to her.

My hair has changed recently - it's quite wiry now and curly. It maybe the meds I take every day, or the extreme heat this summer.

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 24-Oct-23 17:23:01

Indeed I don’t crazyH.

henetha Tue 24-Oct-23 17:17:51

I firmly believe that we should do what we want (as long as it doesn't hurt others). So have your hair whatever colour you want and ignore your friend's comments.

crazyH Tue 24-Oct-23 17:15:07

I don’t like long hair on older people unless it is put up in an elegant bun. But then, I bet they don’t care about my opinion.

Callistemon21 Tue 24-Oct-23 17:13:26

What do others think about coloured hair at 70?

Mine hasn't gone grey yet - should I have it dyed grey as I'm over 70?

crazyH Tue 24-Oct-23 17:11:58

My friend is 84 and has her hair coloured, almost black. I am quite a few years younger and seeing her, I have no intention of showing my grey 😂

Blossoming Tue 24-Oct-23 17:09:44

I had naturally very dark chestnut hair. When it developed a light coloured streak down one side I liked it, so my hairdresser added a few more. I had increasing highlights added as my natural colour faded. When I couldn’t get out during lockdown and shielding it grew and went feral. I loved the colour and it looked great with a decent cut. Never coloured it since.

There really isn’t an age when you should stop the dye, or indeed if you should even start the dye in the first place. It’s your hair, do what you want!

Theexwife Tue 24-Oct-23 17:05:13

Everyone can do what they like about their own appearance and everyone can have an opinion on what they think looks good and what doesn’t.

Personally, I do not like the look of coloured or long hair on older people but that does not mean that they shouldn’t have it.

dogsmother Tue 24-Oct-23 16:59:17

We should all do as we please! Surely this is the rule.

Jaxjacky Tue 24-Oct-23 16:58:02

I have a friend of 72 who has 3 or 4 NHS supplied wigs, all shades of brown/copper, I know she’ll carry on wearing them.

PinkCosmos Tue 24-Oct-23 16:54:51

My natural hair colour was chestnut brown. When I started to go grey - quite late at about 50 - I had it coloured the same colour to cover the grey.

Once I got to 60 I thought it looked a bit harsh against my complexion. I stripped all of the dye out. This wasn't a 100% success as my hair ended up a bit orange.

I started dyeing it a lighter colour. Fortunately, we went on a couple of sunny holidays and this lightened my hair more. I then went one shade lighter again. With it being lighter, I don't have a distinct grey root line when it need doing.

My hair is mid blonde. I dye it myself using Nice and Easy (No. 8) and it doesn't look a solid colour. I must have enough dark hair left to make it look highlighted.

I am always debating leaving it to go natural grey. I am put off as I think I would also look like a piebald.

I mention it every time I go to have my haircut and my hairdresser always says to keep it blonde-ish.

My friend has let her hair go grey. It is snow white and looks lovely. She says it is in much better condition than when she dyed it.

I worry about looking like a bag lady. I don't wear makeup but I do have a good haircut.

If you are on Facebook, have a look at a page called The Gray Book - it is all women who are letting their hair go grey. Some of them are stunning.

hazel93 Tue 24-Oct-23 16:50:47

Dinahmo

I'm a natural red head (ginger colour not chesnut) who started to die my hair using henna as my natural colour faded. I had to grow the henna because it doesn't wash away. This meant having the roots done with dye until the henna had all been cut away.

I reverted to highlights and lowlights which cost an arm and a leg until I realised that the sun faded the colours. They were very subtle but just made my hair look pretty. I have been my natural colour (very faded) for about 10 years and I quite like it.

I think it depends upon the colour of one's face as to the colour that the hair is dyed. Own up grey is quite fashionable at the moment. Helen Mirren and Andie McDowell at a recent premiere both had their natural grey hair and looked great.

However, some people can take a very strong colour, such as Zandra Rhodes with her shocking pink.

I was also a redhead. Stopped having any colouring 2016 after saying I would never go grey. Like you the natural colour has simply faded with white "highlights" , I'm often asked who my hairdresser is !

Primrose53 Tue 24-Oct-23 16:37:02

Primrose53

Like my Dad my hair didn’t go grey until quite late. We were both dark brown with a bit of red. I coloured it for several years then decided to go grey gracefully about 3 years ago. Mum had beautiful pure white hair and was always getting compliments.

I have some L’oreal colour perfect in gold or beige and use one of those when I feel I need a change. They only last a couple of washes and just add a touch of colour. Nobody ever comments so they must look natural. Not sure if they are discontinued now. I bought several as An assistant told me she heard they were on way out.

age Perfect not colour perfect.

Primrose53 Tue 24-Oct-23 16:16:37

Casdon

My mum still has her hair coloured a light caramel colour, and she’s 94. It’s entirely your choice, and it very much depends if you like your natural grey colour or not - some people have beautiful grey or white hair, others, like my family, look like piebalds. It’s whatever makes you feel good.

Sounds lovely.

Dinahmo Tue 24-Oct-23 16:14:57

I'm a natural red head (ginger colour not chesnut) who started to die my hair using henna as my natural colour faded. I had to grow the henna because it doesn't wash away. This meant having the roots done with dye until the henna had all been cut away.

I reverted to highlights and lowlights which cost an arm and a leg until I realised that the sun faded the colours. They were very subtle but just made my hair look pretty. I have been my natural colour (very faded) for about 10 years and I quite like it.

I think it depends upon the colour of one's face as to the colour that the hair is dyed. Own up grey is quite fashionable at the moment. Helen Mirren and Andie McDowell at a recent premiere both had their natural grey hair and looked great.

However, some people can take a very strong colour, such as Zandra Rhodes with her shocking pink.

DollyD Tue 24-Oct-23 16:14:23

Thanks everyone!
I thought I was the only one who hadn’t got the “no coloured hair after 70” memo 😂

Primrose53 Tue 24-Oct-23 16:14:10

Like my Dad my hair didn’t go grey until quite late. We were both dark brown with a bit of red. I coloured it for several years then decided to go grey gracefully about 3 years ago. Mum had beautiful pure white hair and was always getting compliments.

I have some L’oreal colour perfect in gold or beige and use one of those when I feel I need a change. They only last a couple of washes and just add a touch of colour. Nobody ever comments so they must look natural. Not sure if they are discontinued now. I bought several as An assistant told me she heard they were on way out.

silverlining48 Tue 24-Oct-23 16:12:54

When I was 70 I had the back layers coloured deep purple.
Kept it like that for a while before returning to beige blonde
after deciding white grey hair does not suit me.

When I grow old I shall wear purple as the poem goes and I did love it,

Casdon Tue 24-Oct-23 16:11:38

My mum still has her hair coloured a light caramel colour, and she’s 94. It’s entirely your choice, and it very much depends if you like your natural grey colour or not - some people have beautiful grey or white hair, others, like my family, look like piebalds. It’s whatever makes you feel good.

Taffy1234 Tue 24-Oct-23 16:09:02

Still having high lights at 82. Don’t intend to give up any time soon.

Grannyboots1 Tue 24-Oct-23 16:05:58

My sister and I have decided “we’ll never go grey “we are 70 and 73 respectively. I have a cut and colour/ highlight every seven weeks. My first pay packet in the late sixties was spent on a shampoo & set - then every week till the children arrived !!

Ladyleftfieldlover Tue 24-Oct-23 16:04:04

I am 70 and have my roots done every three months. I am probably quite grey now but have it dyed brown with copper and gold highlights.