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Serendipity22 Sat 28-Oct-23 09:08:57

Hmmmm .... i would be asking myself why but then swiftly move on to people who do engage in conversation with me, no way would I try to get in their good books because i would think whats the point!
Its only a social event and if some choose to not speak then it is what it is while you are in their company, the reason they don't engage in conversation might not be anything negative, its just a case of it is what it is.
Enjoy your time there and enjoy the company of those who do engage in conversation..... 😃

SachaMac Sat 28-Oct-23 09:06:55

There are some strange folk about, sounds like she wants to form her own little clique, I’d ignore her and just converse with the nicer people. I certainly wouldn’t give her any compliments!!

wildswan16 Sat 28-Oct-23 08:56:28

M0nica

There are two solutions, assuming that the rest of the group are fine with you.
1) Ignore this couple
2) include them in as if you hadn't noticed that they exclude you.

As we go through life we are bound to come across people who for some trivial reason or no reason at all, take a dislike to us. mentally, shrug your shoulders, and do not waste time worrying about it.

This.

TerriBull Sat 28-Oct-23 08:50:57

Call her out with a "have I done anything to offend you can't help noticing you studiously appear to ignore me"

M0nica Sat 28-Oct-23 07:52:01

There are two solutions, assuming that the rest of the group are fine with you.
1) Ignore this couple
2) include them in as if you hadn't noticed that they exclude you.

As we go through life we are bound to come across people who for some trivial reason or no reason at all, take a dislike to us. mentally, shrug your shoulders, and do not waste time worrying about it.

Ali08 Sat 28-Oct-23 07:38:36

Is there anything special, that you have noticed, in the person that they gush over?
Does that person treat them differently, do things for them, are they well off?
It may be that they feel you and your husband don't do certain things 'for them'!
If it was me I'd definitely be curious as to why they singled me out like that, but I don't think I'd worry that much if everyone else was fine with me!
Buuuuuut, you know what curiosity did to that poor cat, and I'd have to ask someone I felt close to if they'd noticed how they treated me and if my friend could find out why?
That's just me, though!
Her partner is under the thumb, I think, and probably won't speak to you because she's told him not to!

Marydoll Fri 27-Oct-23 22:19:26

I wouldn't waste my time trying to engage or compliment her, she is obviously not a very nice person.

crazyH Fri 27-Oct-23 21:18:34

Just ignore them. I’m sure there are others in the group who will be very pleased to engage with you.

Poppyred Fri 27-Oct-23 21:11:03

Ignore them back.

Oreo Fri 27-Oct-23 20:46:21

If you really think it’s being done on purpose for some unknown reason then yes, stop talking to them and def don’t dish out compliments.Concentrate on chatting to the other people in the group instead.

62Granny Fri 27-Oct-23 20:35:26

My DH goes to an exercise group, the people who attend all have the same problem , with varying degrees of disability, one of the other attendees, noticeably ignores my DH, They speak to everyone else but not him , they also have a online chat group and she ignores him on that as well. Her partner also ignores me now, although he used to speak to me a little. They obviously speak to other members , one in particular they gush over .
To the best of my knowledge neither of us have done anything to upset them . I always say Hello and give her complimentary comments.
Would you stop saying anything? And only speak when you are spoken to?