Being ignored

If you really think it’s being done on purpose for some unknown reason then yes, stop talking to them and def don’t dish out compliments.Concentrate on chatting to the other people in the group instead.

Ignore them back.

Just ignore them. I’m sure there are others in the group who will be very pleased to engage with you.

I wouldn't waste my time trying to engage or compliment her, she is obviously not a very nice person.

Is there anything special, that you have noticed, in the person that they gush over?
Does that person treat them differently, do things for them, are they well off?
It may be that they feel you and your husband don't do certain things 'for them'!
If it was me I'd definitely be curious as to why they singled me out like that, but I don't think I'd worry that much if everyone else was fine with me!
Buuuuuut, you know what curiosity did to that poor cat, and I'd have to ask someone I felt close to if they'd noticed how they treated me and if my friend could find out why?
That's just me, though!
Her partner is under the thumb, I think, and probably won't speak to you because she's told him not to!

There are two solutions, assuming that the rest of the group are fine with you.
1) Ignore this couple
2) include them in as if you hadn't noticed that they exclude you.

As we go through life we are bound to come across people who for some trivial reason or no reason at all, take a dislike to us. mentally, shrug your shoulders, and do not waste time worrying about it.

Call her out with a "have I done anything to offend you can't help noticing you studiously appear to ignore me"

M0nica

There are two solutions, assuming that the rest of the group are fine with you.
1) Ignore this couple
2) include them in as if you hadn't noticed that they exclude you.

As we go through life we are bound to come across people who for some trivial reason or no reason at all, take a dislike to us. mentally, shrug your shoulders, and do not waste time worrying about it.

This.

There are some strange folk about, sounds like she wants to form her own little clique, I’d ignore her and just converse with the nicer people. I certainly wouldn’t give her any compliments!!

Hmmmm .... i would be asking myself why but then swiftly move on to people who do engage in conversation with me, no way would I try to get in their good books because i would think whats the point!
Its only a social event and if some choose to not speak then it is what it is while you are in their company, the reason they don't engage in conversation might not be anything negative, its just a case of it is what it is.
Enjoy your time there and enjoy the company of those who do engage in conversation..... 😃

Stop trying to placate them, no more compliments - ignore them. Accept the situation and engage with others. If you give them a taste of their own medicine they may come round,if they don't you have lost nothing.

You can’t please all of the people all of the time, what ever the reason, they may even think your husband slighted them. Some are very sensitive , it may even be you that are sensitive or even very insensitive, patronizing or dominant.
Just go with the flow of the group.

If it's an exercise group I wouldjust concentrate on the exercises andtry to enjoy that .,, this will show to the other members of the group.. it isn't a social group but you can all be friendly.. it's pretty childish behaviour but some people just need to be top dogs. Feel sorry for them and have fun

People who ignore others are not worth knowing. Be polite and friendly with everyone in the class and show this couple you are not bothered by their childish behaviour.

Does it matter, the poor behaviour of one or possibly two people in a group?
Continue to engage with the other members and ignore this pair's behaviour.

Don’t waste your time worrying about them. You are possibly giving them the attention they need

Thank you everyone, I am friendly with everyone in the group and especially friendly with the other carers / partners , I would not ask her direct because of the disability it might be awkward, I suppose we can't like everyone we come in to contact with but I try to be friendly and inclusive , the chap they gush over, we are particularly friendly with him and his wife and his wife and I go with a have a coffee and chat while they do their group exercise, I might mention it to her but doubt if she has noticed. We will treat them like they treat us.

Could be some envy creeping in towards the couple they gush over, maybe they don't like your friendship with them for some reason. Ignore if you can

Just be polite to the ones ignoring you, if you need to speak to them. You can't just ignore part of a group of people without making the rest feel uncomfortable at some point!
If it is really bothering you, ask a pointed question directly to them that only they can answer. If they don't answer you, or change the subject, then it is time for you to ignore them and just interact with everyone else!

TerriBull

Call her out with a "have I done anything to offend you can't help noticing you studiously appear to ignore me"

This would be and has been my response...

Watch her fluster and stutter at your unexpected show of confidence and coolness.

I experienced this from a colleague when I first started a new job. After a few weeks of being blatantly given the cold shoulder I confronted her and asked if I’d done anything to offend her, she claimed to be unaware that she was ignoring me but then miraculously started being friendly..

She's jealous, maybe your more popular and she was the queen bee before you arrived, or folk like you more in her eyes, ignore her ,don't try complimenting her let her be,

You don't want friends like that anyway my lovely. She's showing herself up with pettiness. There are some people in this world I've noticed who behave like this. Don't go out of your way anymore and keep it to yourself . Don't go mentioning it to anyone in the group. Just be the sweetest, happiest person that you always are. If she has a bee in her bonnet, let it sting her lol

Could she be autistic more difficult to spot in women if so negativity could make her worse. Just be yourself and don’t try to over think things

62Granny you sound like me you treat people the way you want to be treated. If this couple is now ignoring both you and your husband ignore them.They are not worth your time.

I go to a sit fit class . This week is our last one before Christmas. I had asked weeks ago if people give Christmas cards they said no .. I said in that case I will make my gingerbread rocks to bring in. Straight away a woman I have been helping since she joined said I don't want to lose another filling . No one said a word. I did say I call them that because I can't use a rolling pin so just spoon the mix out.

What annoyed me was she said it in front of everyone and no one said a thing plus she has never tried my baking. I will make a point of when I give them out that I know she doesn't want them because of her fillings.

It's horrible to be ignored or judged when you haven't done anything to warrant it. Just ignore them . Others in the group would have noticed how you have been treated. They are not worth your time. Just enjoy the company of the people who care about you both.