2year old DGS escaping from car seat

We bought a strap for under a tenner on Amazon which clips across the two front seat straps. It stopped granddaughter getting her arms out and climbing out of her seat. She is now three and can undo the special strap but knows not to do it because, ‘safety first!’ It’s part of her routine now, putting on her clippies.

she might be prosecuted for carrying a child without safety restraint.
similar law applies to dogs, but is rarely enforced.
or obeyed.

aggie

Well Pippa22 if the child causes an accident he sure won’t do much developing !

Glad you wrote that I was just about to. If he causes a bad accident both he and his mum could end up with very serious head injuries. Would his mother be sued for neglect?

Soft quilted type clothing is very popular nowadays and could be the cause of GS escaping. Apparently it's best to take this type of clothing off before securing in a car seat. Of couse a two year old could well have figured how to undo the car seat fitting. If so, the "we will not be going anywhere" approach should be tried.

Well Pippa22 if the child causes an accident he sure won’t do much developing !

Once had a wee boy I worked with. He drove his mummy mad as she would go ten metres in the car and he would unbuckle his seat belt. She would then get exasperated and the whole thing would escalate. Sure enough the first time I was running to him to nursery he undid the seat belt. Stopped, buckled him in but didn't engage any any conversation with him and set off again. Must have stopped several times on that first trip which meant his nursery session was very short. The following week he unbuckled a few times but I pulled over, buckled him back in and carried on. The third time we got there without stopping once and he was fine from then on. He loved the attention he got from his Mummy every time he unbuckled and as she was always rushing at the last minute it was a nightmare. He loved nursery and quickly cottoned on to the fact if he unbuckled he missed out.

Please don’t think of a screen as a solution particularly for young children. That’s really a cop out and very lazy for adults to think this is a good idea. Poor child, nobody wants to spend time with him, here have a tablet then adults don’t have to talk to you !
There are many reasons this is not a good idea, hampering general development, language development, interacting with other people and surroundings and possible damage to an immature developing brain.
Young children are generally x as delight and so rewarding most of the time and eager to learn. We adults should feel privileged to be the people to help them to learn so many things that tablets just can’t.

my youngest son used to escape from his car seat quite frequently (he's now 44!). I'd be driving along with him, minding my own business and there he was iin the front next to me. He was a right little houdini (youngest of 3) and used to escape from his cot a lot, and climb over baby-gates etc. Not sure what I did to stop him with the car seat though......................

We had this problem (though not as bad). DGS aged 2 would get his arms out and we were doing the straps up very tightly. He had just been turned round a few weeks previously so rather than facing the back he was now facing the front. When he did it again we promptly turned the seat round which he hated. He hasn’t done it since.

My DS did this when he was about 17 months. I used s shiffon scarf to tie around buckles. I realise it's not great but for me it was a case of only way I could keep him in car seat. I had a long pony tail at the time and I'd suddenly feel D's pulling it out of his seat.

how are children opening car doors from inside.
they all have child locks setting, so they can only be opened from outside.
likewise the windows, most are electric and the driver can lock them.
the manuel ones would probably be too hard for a child to wind down far.

My DGS does this too. His Mum puts the harness on much tighter than I expected, she bought a clip which worked for a while. Each end clips over the harness at a high chest level, pulling them together, making it hard to escape. Her nursery also suggested putting the seatbelt over the top (not a lot of use). The best was a reward chart for staying put.

My 2 year old grandson did that and even managed to open the door on a busy roundabout - my daughter in fright shouted at him so much thankfully he never did it again

Hi, my gran daughter used to open her car seat…try cutting and placing a small piece of a sticky back one side(scratchy) of velcro on the release buckle. It worked for us. Good luck

If I was his mum I would see if a friend was willing at short notice to bring the older child home.The school would have to be told as well.
Then when he opens the seat belts stop the car and phone the friend. If it is on the drive take him back in and make him sit and listen to a story. If it is a way from home sit for as long as it takes for him to agree to conform.
How do you think nursery workers and reception class teachers keep control of classes of 32+? By being consistent the child knows they will never get away with it.
The whole family need to come up with a plan and not smile or laugh at his antics. Just keep repeating it until he gets the message. Same with the coat no coat on, no going out.

I don't usually agree with passing the responsibility to someone else but when I was involved with a day nursery parents sometimes asked the staff to have a word with the child. Not ideal but it worked!

I agree with M0nica - worked for me with my grandson when aged 2. "We are not going anywhere unless you keep your seatbelt on, and if you take it off, I will stop the car!" Only takes a few repetitions and he will learn. With toddlers, actions must lead very rapidly to consequences. Remember what's at stake - his safety and your driver's licence!

The minute you hear or see it undone stop the car ASAP. Tell the child if he doesn't stay strapped in the car is going nowhere. Strap him in again and move off slowly and if he does it again stop and put in buggy and walk. Refuse to drive him anywhere again. A child was killed a few years ago that did this and opened the door. They fell out and went under a car. It's very dangerous

Tell him the car can’t work until he’s safely fastened in and make sure it fits him properly

Might something like this be more suitable? www.kiddies-kingdom.com/9m-11yrs/31534-cybex-pallas-m-fix-sl-group-1-2-3-car-seat-pure-black-2023.html?sv_tax1=googleads&utm_campaign=PMax+%7C+Cybex+%7C+Hero+Products+%7C+SL+%7C+8%&sv_tax3=SL&utm_term=&sv_cost=17689672712&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiA6byqBhAWEiwAnGCA4IV7MY2cjta54DKA4frOj2tD7rN7mnFkgl_n5ZzvRYFOdVlksjOmFhoCZ4wQAvD_BwE#q=&page=0&refinements=%5B%5D&numerics_refinements=%7B%7D&index_name=%22all_en%22

I know the extra buckles that can be bought aren’t recommended as I believe they invalidate insurance and can be a problem in the event of an actual accident.

NotSpaghetti I did not tell Hithere to read the thread!

I have read the whole thread! I had already commented to Hithere before you in fact and she quoted my comment back and still appeared to have misunderstood...I was then responding to that as it was wider than your own comment!

And I'm not sure why I am now 33Madgran ...if only! 😏

33Madgran77 and Farmor15
I'd already pointed out to Hithere about the OP trying to support the mum before you were calling for people to read the thread.

Not trying to be rude but maybe take your own advice?

Farmor15

Well said Madgran - it's really annoying when posters don't read the thread properly.

Yes it is! And itvis also annotong when an irrelevancy about "interfering"; "out of date"; "OTT"; "putting grandchildren in danger"; " "risking estrangement" etc etc is yet again brought into a perfectly reasonable thread where an OP is asking for advice and ideas regarding a problem!

Well said Madgran - it's really annoying when posters don't read the thread properly.

Older is not always wiser well in this particular case "older" is using common sense and asking for ideas/advice to help "younger" who is struggling with a risky problem with her child! "Older" is not the problem...!