2year old DGS escaping from car seat

Is it actually being put on tight enough?
They should be pretty restrictive.

refuse to drive him anywhere until he complies.

The top of the harness should be about 2cm below the shoulder of a child in a rear-facing child car seat, and about 2cm above the shoulder of a child in a forward-facing child car seat.

It should be quite tight, so that only one or two fingers can fit between the child's chest and harness.

Clothing can affect how snugly the harness fits, so check it every journey.

The harness buckle should not rest over the child's tummy.

My son fits the hatmrness much tighter than I thought was necessary but he is, it seems, correct.
There's no way his infants could ever escape!

There are various devices available that may help. Buckle-upp is one. Search childproof car seat buckles on Google or Amazon for more info. I also think he should be taught it's unacceptable, my son did the same many moons ago. I told him if he undid the seat belt we would simply sit and go nowhere and I'd ignore him, he found this very boring after a few minutes - l had set time aside for this, took a book with me and sat and read it until he realised undoing his seat belt didn't have a fun outcome, took a couple of trips. Also - if he then doesn't undo it he gets a reward - book to read in the car etc.

Years ago I had a friend who put a set of reins on her child then strapped the reigns to the car seat are there any points where you could do this.? Old-fashioned reins seemed to allow this as I had to strap DD2 into a shopping trolley every time I went to the supermarket.

i would be wary of doing that with the reins, as the safety seat is not designed to be used like that.
in a collision the forces may cause the reins to become a hazard, risk of ligature etc.

I still wonder if the straps are too loose - this can happen too easily if the child is wearing something like a puffy coat for example.

It doesn't sound like he's undoing it - it sounds like he's getting out by wriggling.

A mini Houdini. I hope you find a solution here.

He has worked out how to undo the buckle.

It’s the school run she is finding difficult. He also refuses to go in the buggy and school is nearly a mile away so it’s all a bit fraught!

Sadly it’s the buckle he can undo.

Thank you - the idea of not going anywhere (obviously not the school run) and being very boring is a good one (with reward for being good).

He won’t do reins either. He wants to be free!

I agree

It’s definitely the buckle.

Thank you!

friend make a sleeve that covered about 6 inches whenthe belt was engaged pushed it over the actual buckle
it worked

maybe for those not handy
www.madeformums.com/reviews/3-ways-to-stop-your-child-getting-out-of-a-car-seat/

is it right seat and harness for him.
maybe go to halfords and discuss options.
he obviously needs to be securely restrained.
and told it is the law.
is he neuro-diverse, if so maybe support groups would have some ideas.

Who is in charge here? You or the child?

Who should be in charge?

These are all problems you can deal with.

It is clearly not the right seat and/or tight enough

He might not like it in the beginning but his safety is paramount and you are the adult and you are in charge, not him

Why such rude answers to someone who has asked for assistance? This is an issue we had with my DGS some years ago when he was 18 months old. I remember searching for something to help and being completely dismissed by a Mothercare assistant who also seemed to think the answer was to tell him not to undo the belt. Yes that works in the end, as does refusing to drive anywhere until he leaves it alone but in the mean time it is a dangerous situation and distracting for the driver. Car seat buckles are designed for easy opening in an emergency and little fingers love to open things. We had to resort to putting something over the button in the end while he learnt but that is not ideal either. I think here are more things on the market now to help but be careful that in the event of an accident that you can get him out of the seat quickly.

ComeOnGran

He won’t do reins either. He wants to be free!

Tough

As in, he will have to put up with it.