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Cremation Plot . Renewal of Lease. Experience of this?

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Susiewong65 Fri 08-Dec-23 16:45:08

This sort of thing happens in private crematoriums
We had a relatives ashes scattered under a tree of our choice.
We took out a lease for 10 years and knew approximately when it would expire.
We were duly contacted and took out a further 25 years lease.
It is expensive but they look after the plot well and they are in business to make money unlike council run crematoriums.

mumski Fri 08-Dec-23 16:38:11

I did ask what would happen if we didn't renew.
Apparently, the stone would remain ours and we could take it away or they would dispose of it if that's what we wanted.
She said the ashes would not be disturbed.
Thinking about it, when I've been up there to visit, there are a number of plots where the stone has be removed, leaving paving slabs and the outline where the stone used to be. Vey sad.
I'm sure it is all legitimate, but it's still a lot of money for some families to find.

BlueBelle Fri 08-Dec-23 15:46:40

If the family can’t afford it they ask for the ashes back to either keep or scatter Callistemon

Germanshepherdsmum Fri 08-Dec-23 15:40:58

If the lease isn’t renewed the plot can be reused. If the ashes were interred in urns perhaps you could, if you wished, have them taken out for scattering if you don’t want to renew the lease. It is a lot of money to find.

Callistemon21 Fri 08-Dec-23 15:24:53

Thank you for the update mumski

It does seem legitimate
Not something I've heard of either and I'm surprised.

So - what happens if a family can't afford to pay the lease?
My mind is running on all kinds of scenarios!

mumski Fri 08-Dec-23 15:17:16

Just to update you all.
I spoke to the Crem yesterday. To renew the lease on Mum and Dad's plot for another 25 years would be £990 shock or for 10 years £595. My brother is convinced he won't be here in 10 years so won't be worried when it runs out. hmm.
It does seem legitimate but not something a lot of people have come across.

Smileless2012 Sun 03-Dec-23 13:10:07

I can't remember how much we paid for my mum's, £100 or £120 which included the cost of the plaque and is for a period of 10 years.

silverlining48 Sun 03-Dec-23 13:04:02

My mil died in 2004/5 We have had two requests so far for us to pay 💰 otherwise they will re use the place where her ashes are buried. I wasn’t expecting this and would have queried but DH paid up
My mum died 10 years ago and so far we havnt had a similar request.

Callistemon21 Sun 03-Dec-23 10:31:23

mumski

Sorry Callistemon21, I probably wasn't clear enough. Sadly my brother was buried elsewhere, as that was what my sister in law wanted. Another story. sad.
This is just where Mum and Dad were buried, but any letters to do with their plot would have gone to him in the past.
Thank you for your kind thoughts.

Yes, I did understand, perhaps I wasn't clear
I thought it might have been upsetting for your SisIL receiving this letter about burial plots so soon after your brother's death.

The original funeral director should be able to help you, I think.

mumski Sun 03-Dec-23 10:18:32

Sorry Callistemon21, I probably wasn't clear enough. Sadly my brother was buried elsewhere, as that was what my sister in law wanted. Another story. sad.
This is just where Mum and Dad were buried, but any letters to do with their plot would have gone to him in the past.
Thank you for your kind thoughts.

Aldom Sun 03-Dec-23 10:16:31

I've just looked online 'Interment of Ashes what you need to know'. It would seem most plots are leased, some for 50 years, others less. Charges vary depending on the local authority etc. etc.

BlueBelle Sun 03-Dec-23 10:15:56

I would ring the cremation place and talk to them personally
I don’t know about cremation plots as I just want my ashes strewn but I originally bought a plot as I intended being buried as all my family have been but later changed my mind and sold it back to them but I do remember the plot was only bought for a period of time I think it was 50 years it wasn’t a forever thing so this may be the same

Callistemon21 Sun 03-Dec-23 10:08:56

How upsetting for you and your sister-in-law, mumski

I have never heard of this and assumed a plot would be paid for and the price included in the funeral costs.

Others may be along in a minute with advice, but I would say don't pay until you have checked this out with the original funeral directors and the crematorium.

It might be a scam, if so a very sick one indeed.

mumski Sun 03-Dec-23 10:05:13

We've had a letter from the Crematorium where Mum and Dad's ashes are buried. There is a stone there and a place to put flowers.
The letter is saying the lease is up for renewal and to contact them for a price.
The letter had gone to my younger brother and forwarded by his wife to me as he died this time last year. I suspect if any letters had come through before he would have delt with it and paid and not wanted to trouble us with it.
Has anyone else had to pay for a renewal on a cremation plot and if so can they remember how much it was and for how long?
I'll ring them next week, but wanted to hear the experiences of other lovely GNers before I do this. Thank you x