Daughter urgently in need of direction

I think I would leave her to make her mind up. Only she knows why she is burned out, does she need time out from any job?
If she's worked abroad she can handle herself leave her to get on with it. Lots of people and I suspect most of us were managing a family and husband as well as a job at her age. Only she knows what she wants, worrying as it is to you.

Great news and I hope it goes well for her.
I’m late to this thread but want to acknowledge how difficult it can be to support our adult children whilst letting them work things out. I hope yiu weren’t put off by the occasional snippy ‘back off’ comment.
One of my daughters did 8 years teaching in primary. She loved the teaching and the children but found the long hours once she had a second baby, impossible. She worked in a very deprived area so pressures there added to the ordinary work stresses
She re-trained and runs her own business. She’s happier and can work more easily around the needs of her children.
So many young people leave teaching, police, GP work because the hours are impossible to combine with family life.

Great news for her and for you. Hope all goes well for her.

Good luck 🤞

Fingers crossed for her.

Best wishes, hope she enjoys her new change of career!

An update on my daughter- she was successful at her intensive interview day for the post of PA to the headteacher of a large secondary school. She starts on Monday! She’s nervous but excited.
So, I’m back as early morning dog walker…
Thank you again to you all.

Oh and he rescued injured parrots in Belize too!

My son got a degree in English. He then did Tefl teaching in S. Korea , was a sushi chef in Iceland , did bar work in NZ, tried being an estate agent in London . Enjoyed all apart from Estate agent . Then went to Manchester Uni and did a degree in town planning. Now works for Transport for Greater Manchester on the planning / environmental
Impact side of things.
The point to this post is, he was adrift for many years, but eventually found his path.
Evangeline I’m sure she will find her way but she has to forge her own path 🌻

Evangeline

My 31 year old daughter is at a crossroads but doesn’t know which road to take- she doesn’t even know where the roads lead!
Highly educated and organised, excellent teacher with six years experience . Dreadfully missed by the school she left at Christmas due to the overwhelming demands of the profession. She has in mind to come a PA to a headteacher perhaps but is having no luck as she has no experience. I have been in touch with a careers advisor but my daughter will not engage with her. She is starting to become very disheartened and I don’t know what to advise her.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to where she could go from here?
Many thanks

See if she’ll go back to college to train in admin work . I went back to college at the ripe old age of 58 I enjoyed it immensely and got myself a decent well paid job, best of luck

Canbsnan You used one word in your post that is reflective of today’s teaching environment, especially the high school grades… word is dangerous.

My brother left teaching H.S. after 30 yrs (well, let’s just say he retired) because of one reason only - he said the whole culture of teaching higher grades evolved over the years from civility to always fighting attitudes, entitlement and threatening language. And there were fights on campus.

What is this world coming to?? Those are our children and the future of this country and planet. Aren’t they getting guidance and nurturing at home?

FLO, Family liaison officer?
Not deputy but assistant head?
Phase leader?

Doesn't Accountacy take years of training?

We have accountants in the family. It can be possible to be taken on to train, to work and be paid at the same time but the competition for places is quite fierce.
I thought a Maths degree might be needed to be fast-tracked?

I'm a qualified accountant. I actually formally retired three weeks ago, but already find myself back doing contract work, pretty much on my own terms, and very well paid. There's a big shortage of us. So I can fully recommend it!

Grandetante It is very easy to chaange careers in the UK. IN my post, just above yours, I have recounted my DD's experience changing careers and she has many friends who have done so as well.

Evangeline

I’m overwhelmed by the kindness and understanding of you all!
She really needs to leave teaching but wants to stay, for the time being, in a school environment. I’m delighted to tell you that she has two in person interviews next week after being successful in phone interviews. One as PA to a headteacher and one as coordinator for the sports department of an independent school. She’s nervous but is preparing diligently.
Thank you again for all your marvellous support and suggestions and understanding.
Thank you

Please let us know how she gets on in her interviews and if not successful on this occasion strongly suggest she registers on Civil Services Jobs, they have so many interesting opportunities, her degree would be relevant (showing evidence of research and studying) and so many different departments and pretty good money from HEO level and above.

I did not go into the Civil Service until I was 50 and without a degree. With a degree, great work experience and only 31 she should fit very well.

Of course we never stop being a parent but if you were older when they were born,you are officially old when they are in their 30's!

There is a limit to my stamina. I also question the value of trying to rescue. After supporting them for years,surely they must fly away and do their own thing.

If your daughter wants to be a PA she should go on a PA course
www.pitman-training.com/our-courses/office-secretarial/pa-courses/

There are others some may be run by your local college. I would look for one where there is a placement. This opportunity would possibly turn into a permanent job or at the least offer a reference concerning the quality of skills your daughter has as a PA

She should put her CV on .gov.uk and look up the career

nationalcareers.service.gov.uk/job-profiles/personal-assistant

Would she be interested in speaking with an Academic Advisor from the college she attended?

Maybe she should think about what her transferable skills are? I’m an ex teacher, I left due to stress ( surprise) but realised that I actually enjoyed admin/ paperwork , so ended up as an admin / receptionist person working for NHS. Rubbish money but I LOVED it!

It’s such a shame. A number of primary and secondary school teachers have left their professions and joined my team in the NHS as administrators taking considerable pay and pension cuts. However they all say how much happier they are and don’t miss the stresses from their teaching days. Teachers have very transferrable skills and I’m sure your daughter will find something that suits her skill set. Teaching sounds to be a stressful and thankless profession these days. Wishing her all the best for the future.

I’m overwhelmed by the kindness and understanding of you all!
She really needs to leave teaching but wants to stay, for the time being, in a school environment. I’m delighted to tell you that she has two in person interviews next week after being successful in phone interviews. One as PA to a headteacher and one as coordinator for the sports department of an independent school. She’s nervous but is preparing diligently.
Thank you again for all your marvellous support and suggestions and understanding.
Thank you

Teachers especially perhaps primary teachers often have great managerial skills along with ability to take responsibility and to use their initiative.

My teacher daughter also quit at Christmas as the classroom became overwhelming and dangerous. She is doing some temping as she does not feel ready to jump back into another demanding role.
She says she feels like she needs to regroup and remember her strengths.

Perhaps your daughter needs to do the same.

A History degree is a excellent basis for many careers (not at all limiting as someone suggested above!). More barristers have History degrees than Law, I discovered recently. It would certainly be well regarded for Civil Service jobs and similar.