Grandson not allowed extra activities

Of course it’s your business. He’s your Grandson.
I wonder if he could tie up with someone else in the village? You could offer to pay fuel.
Maybe find out who runs the club and ask if he’d be willing to set up in the village.
Offer to pay for a taxi?

She must have her reasons, time or financial, she wont be not taking him just to be nasty.

Maybe your son could take him to activities when he sees him.

It is absolutely none of your business what your ex daughter in law decides to do or not do with her son when she looks after him for the majority of the time. Your son could raise the subject with her, if they are amicable. Of course you are concerned for your dgs, but please don't get involved. It reads as if you feel critical of your ex daughter in law

What is your son, his father, doing about this?

None of your business - it may not be a matter of financial means, but time constraints, or the child does not stick to one activity long enough...

These things can prove very expensive to do and, if she is a single mother, she will likely already have a trying schedule. I think it's unfair to judge whether or not she 'should' be able to facilitate this unless you are looking after the child full time and managing the same schedule as the mother.

Apologies, I don't need to know exactly how much your son pays in maintenance, just that I have seen mothers struggling to pay for even the basics from maintenance which can be woefully inadequate to cover even the basics.

How much maintenance dies your son pay? It may not be enough to cover more than food and some clothes. Money could be tight, it's not just the cost of the activities, it's the petrol costs, costs of the kit required for karate, football etc.

I hope your son lives near enough to take an active interest in his child's welfare and could take him, if not then perhaps he could offer to pay to fund these activities.

I’d be checking via his father if this is fact, young children are quite astute.

Not your business.
Leave his father to organize it.

I wouldn’t interfere in this, it’s not critical at 6 yrs old, maybe in 3 or 4 yrs time if he isnt doing anything you will mention it, maybe even offer to pay if cash is short.

What does your son take him to in his parenting time? I don't think 6 year olds need to do loads of activities

Does she work? Is it the time? Is it the cost?

Difficult one because of how far away you live from the grandson
Cant his Dad sort this out Does he also live 4 hours away or is he any nearer ?
If his Dad is nearer he could sort it with her and do the ferrying/paying etc but if he’s also a long way away I dont know theres anything can be done, but thats very unfortunate as kids love afterschool activities and miss out if not allowed

Couldnt dad still put his foot down and pay for a class etc he after all should have as much say as the mother in the childs upbringing and life

Is it a financial worry ? Maybe she is worried about buying uniforms and equipment. Or maybe she can’t be bothered, worst case scenario!

Before she moved away, i used to take him swimming every week , which he loved so much.

Sorry, I was writing my post so didn’t your reply saying see you lived so far away. Other options might be to offer to pay his class costs, as it may be lack of funds preventing her taking him, or for your son to ask her about other children’s parents who are attending the classes dropping him off at home?

If you live close enough, why not offer to take him, I’m sure she would be grateful, you’d see more of him and he definitely would be happy to be able to go? I wouldn’t waste my time worrying about why she doesn’t take him, just focus on how you can help him do this.

She lives 4 hours drive away therefore we only see him during school holidays,.

My daughters partner sometimes takes his sons from his previous relationship to an evening activity or football practice at weekends could your son not offer to do that if Mum can’t do it. It’s a shame he misses out.