Do you find it annoying when people use a diminutive form of your name without asking?

I'm with you on this. I even hate my friend Catherine being referred to as Cath!
No she's not.
My friend Elizabeth is not Liz.
I did know a Zoë whose parents thought it couldn't be shortened.
They were shocked to hear her called Zo-Zo
Fortunately my name is short.

My car reg is a shortened form of my name, so I can’t complain if some people call me that.

My dad used to say he didn’t mind what he was called as long as it wasn’t late to dinner.

hazel93

Oh, do get over yourself !

Wonderful 😂

Anyone who knew me before we moved to our previous village knows me by the shortened version. There was already someone in the village using that name so I reverted to the longer version. So anyone part of my life before 1996 is instantly identifiable. I prefer the shortened version but the longer one is unusual and not likely to be confused with anyone else,

So, petra and hazel93, we shouldn’t have our own opinions about how people use our names? Bit intolerant of you, isn’t it, assuming that that is what you’re saying? After all, one’s own name is one of the first things one learns as a baby, and it is very personal all through one’s life, so it seems reasonable to have fairly strong feelings about how it is used. Some of us do have such feelings and some don’t and neither is wrong, it seems to me.

No, I don't care. People use 3 forms of what they think is my name. My family say what I prefer -- apart from the once a year "NORAH MIDDLE NAME LAST NAME" and I hate that!

It rarely happens as my name is only five letters long. People that know me never alter it.
One chap I didn't know well (I looked after his grandchildren and met him occasionally) did and it seemed a bit presumptuous/over familiar, and wasn't something I'd ever have called myself anyway.
Think along the lines of "Barry" shortened to "Baz." 🤨
I didn't say anything though, he was just being friendly in a matey sort of way 🤷

I’m not bothered by what people call me. Life is too short to be bothered by it.

My name doesn't shorten but is very common, I am often called by both given names to distinguish me from two Aunts who had the same name -they are no longer here to care but my lengthened name has stuck,
I prefer it to just my first name which I have never suited.

Yes , I go by a shortened version of my name and then people will shortened that version . Problem is an ex boyfriend from wayyyy back used to call me that and our parting wasn't acrimonious, so when I hear someone using it it reminds me of him and hairs rise on the back of my neck.

I don't care what people call me as long as they call me!

My name is hard to shorten, so it doesn't happen to me, but it does happen to my children. I never presume to use a nickname or shortened version of someone's name without asking.

These are people connected with my sport that I want to keep at arm’s length. They are not my friends. I am a volunteer. They get paid. They have tried to stitch me up. I don’t want them shortening my name.

Personally, no.

But I do understand with some names.

I know a Victoria for example.
The name is always Victoria, and never Vicki.
If I was emailing back a Victoria, I would put Good Morning Victoria.
In more professional situations, I would stick with whatever the person had emailed themselves as.

Now I have seen your latest post, that is even more reason why you personally would not want your name shortened.

I changed jobs once and on my first day the boss told me that they already had one Caroline on the staff so I "must" be called Carol. No one had ever called me Carol and to suddenly have my real name dismissed really upset me. The minute a decent job came up I was gone! My mother had always refused to let anyone shorten my name but a couple of years before she died she started calling me Caro! No idea where that came from.

I don't mind it.
Mine gets various shortened versions used, but they're all ok.

My name is frequently mis-spelled. (So is my surname, funnily enough). That doesn’t really bother me, except that if, once I’ve corrected them, they still insist on using the incorrect spelling, then I get a bit irritated. If it’s people I’m unlikely to encounter again, I let it pass.

My first name can’t really be shortened, but on occasion, in the dim and distant past, some tried to lengthen it, thinking my actual name was a shortened derivative (which it isn’t), and I must admit, that annoyed me at the time, (especially as I really dislike that longer name) and I was quite indignant that the lengthened version they thought was right was most definitely not, and would they stop using it, which they eventually complied with, I’m pleased to say.

I suppose, in the grand scheme of things, getting upset about how your name is shortened, lengthened or totally mis-spelled is perhaps over the top, but actually, most of us probably like our names and hope that other people will be respectful enough to use the name we wish to be known by and spell it correctly once its correct spelling is pointed out.

What I find interesting is that in English, one says “I am called …”. I don’t know for other languages but in both French and Spanish, one says”I call myself …”!
I loathe my name being shortened, but it is very frequently mispronounced as it is the French version of a not uncommon name.
As for misspelling! Both my first and surnames are constantly not written correctly!

OldFrill

flappergirl

No I don't but I live in Bristol where every name is shortened.

And an L or two added on 🙂

That's right me babber. I'm off to Asdal now to do some shopping.

It’s rare that my name gets shortened
I’m just grateful when people spell it correctly
Mine is the traditional way and there are many modern corruptions

I'm always pleasantly surprised if people actually spell /say my name correctly. On the other hand, I do become irritated when people mispronounce any of my friends names.

The only person who called me by my full Christian name was my mother. I hated my name growing up but feel indifferent to it now. And despite being English it is not an English name.

I live near Bristol. My friend has a daughter called Deborah which she pronounces Deboral!

My name has 6 letters and Bristolians usually only use the first three.