Harmless social media post

That question is directed to the ever joyful mabon2

Who’s moaning?

least said, soonest mended, OP

My husband was determined to make 70 when he was diagnosed with cancer at 61. He made it but passed away that year. I’m incredibly grateful for those years together but acknowledge that getting older is a pain. I’m a very fit and active 67, my sister still works at 74. What a difference it makes to be busy. I’m sorry you got a negative on your post, it’s always a risk and I suspect your friend’s daughter might regret being such a grump on your lighthearted post. There are a couple of mean comments on this thread too.

Is there such a thing as a “harmless social media post” ?
Even the most apparently innocent comment can hurt and upset depending on the circumstances of the reader.
I actually think your friends response was fair enough . You admit it was “true” so why was she not entitled to say so?
Six months or so before his 70th birthday I asked DH what he would like for his birthday,
His answer was “To see it”.
He died less than 6 weeks after that birthday.
I rest my case.

I’d ignore it,too. She is probably still grieving and at that time we are very sensitive. Poor lass, but it isn’t your fault if she is going through that.

I did something similar to a post on linked in. My friend posted about the challenge of educating kids during covid and I said, welcome to the world of parents with kids with disabilities. It's relentless and is every day. I didn't post to be rude or anything, just to wake people up to the plight of others.

He responded positively saying he had no idea and my comment made him feel grateful it's a shortlived thing.

I'd comment that I miss her mum too and leave it at that. She is, of course, right btw. Noone is promised tomorrow.

I think I might be inclined to respond to her comment..just to acknowledge it. Maybe something like 'yes..you are right'..
I think she might appreciate something like that..to feel heard..

Don't take the bait - ignore !

Ignore it your allowed your opinion perhaps shes not over it or hasnt got a sense of humour anywho hope its a good one x

And this is why I keep off social media and don't feel the need to post the smallest details of my life, with pictures, for everyone to see.

I totally understand your feeling, I will be 70 this year and have said exactly the same!
It is indeed a 'privilege ' that some don't have but unfortunately that is a fact of life sadly.
I agree with clicking the care emoji on her comment and leaving it at that .

My DH is going to be 70 soon and he didn’t want to talk about it, he is in denial. Not a happy chap! I have said to him be thankful you are going to be! Think of the alternative but it’s not made much difference. He says he’s on the slippery slope….😂

Well, that's us told 🤭

Stop moaning and be grateful to wake up every morning. First world moaner.

The alternative to being old is not an option !!!

It feels like it is, but that is best kept in my own head.

Thank you. 🙂

Losing a child is the worst thing in the world MissA

Typical of social media including - sadly - gransnet at times
We all have a waspish streak and it’s far easier to vent it in print than face to face
By far the best thing is to ignore it as such things can spin out of control

I don't think I've ever been happy since my daughter died, but that is my issue.

Its one if the things I really battle with; accepting that for others, time has moved on, and that is how it should be for them.

Don’t take it personally, most feel that way about aging (if not all the time then sometimes!)
However if this was me, with a much younger woman, I would do a pm to her saying you were sorry that she felt pain from your post and fully understood. However this is how you feel, and know your own privilege in being able to do so. If she needs to reach out perhaps pm instead, or delete you as a fb ‘friend.’

I'd just answer with a heart emoji on her post

I know, I do agree with you

Yes JaneJudge but it's hardly fair to make someone else unhappy.

I think we have to remember that people do this sort of thing because they are unhappy