Sunday Lunch

Mel1967
Quite interesting to read the responses to your dilemma. It sounds like a wonderful idea to have a regular Sunday Lunch with your family & as your DS & GF live with you it feels that it would be a shame for them to miss out ,
Surely if you arrange this for a monthly get together your DS will be able to join you & his GP’s for his meal later .
Hope you work it out , family time is precious.

I agree with you luluaugust

It does rather sound as if you have had a lovely idea that nobody wants. Just leave it for now and perhaps visit them for a cup of tea on Easter Sunday. Invite your father round sometime when he can watch Sky Sport in peace.

Thank you.
The cooking of the food there wouldn’t be a problem - it would where to eat it?
They don’t have a dining table or chairs.
They each have a fold up table that they eat from, whilst sitting in their armchairs. (Long story)
My dad likes to come to ours so that he can sit at the table - also he gets to watch football on Sky Sports - which he isn’t allowed to have at home.

Mel1967

Update

I invited my parents for Easter Sunday Lunch.
About 1.30 and they would be collected & taken home.
My invitation was declined, by my mum.
Not sure how much say my dad had.
They couldn’t possibly leave the new rescue cat - which arrived yesterday.
Maybe I’ll try again?

Take the food and go over there and cook for all of you?

I invited my parents for Easter Sunday Lunch.
About 1.30 and they would be collected & taken home.
My invitation was declined, by my mum.

When my Mum was deteriorating with Alzheimer's we went to them one Christmas, with all the food, and cooked dinner at theirs.
Would that be an option for you all?

Yes, ask again.
It's only fair for them to spend time with their rescue cat, and nice to see they're responsible enough to do it.

Yes, wait until the cat’s settled in and they know they can safely leave it without returning to some ruined carpets and furniture.

Update

I invited my parents for Easter Sunday Lunch.
About 1.30 and they would be collected & taken home.
My invitation was declined, by my mum.
Not sure how much say my dad had.
They couldn’t possibly leave the new rescue cat - which arrived yesterday.
Maybe I’ll try again?

PS if you do mean “lunch” it’s not going to be at 7 is it?
If they are really elderly an evening would not work would it?
(Why does everybody have to be there? )

How do you “start” inviting parents to lunch?
You invite them.

It doesn’t have to be every week, or the same lunch or the same family members , just ask them!

I thought someone had asked for this🤞

DD - dear daughter
DS - dear son
AC- adult child
DB - dear brother
Dil - daughter-in-law
Sil - son-in-law
GS- grandson
GD - granddaughter
Bil - Brother-in-law
DM- dear mother
DF - dear father
DC - dear child/children
I think I’ve covered them all - hopefully!!!
No, I’ve missed Sister, Uncle, Aunty 😂
Feel free to add/ correct

Many thanks for all your comments.
What a shame that the majority of people didn’t actually read my post properly ☹️
Still lots to think about 😊

As a newbie - Me too! 🙏🏻😂

Surprised a couple of people have said grandparents are more interested in their own children than their grandchildren. Mulling.

Could you go out to a country pub perhaps?

weekly get togethers for everyone might be a bit over th ise top - especially for your son and girlfriend - I know my AC would not want to be tied down - your parents might also find it a bit much. I would think monthly lunches would be easier for everyone. Do a Sunday lunch if that's what you and your parents like and let your son and girlfriend join you if they can. Otherwise you are being hard on yourself. It is kind of you but people don't always want to be tied down to times.

I'm sorry Mel1967 that many of us read this as though you wanted it every week.
I honestly think it's the "start having" in your opening sentence which I read as meaning all the time. I suppose that's why you have so many not 100% helpful replies!

Apologies.

petra

Mel1967
You once asked for conversation ideas when you see your parents.
Now your thinking of entertaining them every week. 🤷‍♀️

Thanks for your reply.
If read my original post it does not mention entertaining every week - it just says that I want to start having them for Sunday lunch.

Callistemon21

^(dad has never driven)^

That is most unusual. I do know women in their 80s who have never learnt to drive (can't understand it myself) but have never come across a man of that age who hasn't ever learnt to drive.
Can your DH fetch them if you're cooking?

He never wanted to drive - now 83 and mum didn’t pass her test until she was 50 - she’s 81
It would be collecting as my husband cooks Sunday lunch/dinner

Greciangirl

Change the day to one that suits everyone.

Unfortunately there isn’t another day that would suit everyone, mainly due to the hours that my son and his girlfriend work

Callistemon21

^(dad has never driven)^

That is most unusual. I do know women in their 80s who have never learnt to drive (can't understand it myself) but have never come across a man of that age who hasn't ever learnt to drive.
Can your DH fetch them if you're cooking?

Possibly a medical reason. Dad couldn’t drive because he was blind. When eventually they could afford a car Mum learned to drive. She would have been mid 40s. She continued driving until hospitalised with her last illness.

Why don't you have Sunday lunch with parents and invite girlfriend, then the odd weekday lunch out with your son and parents? That way everyone gets to visit, but not necessarily at the same time, or too late in the day.

Thank you for the clarification - I think most of us read I want to start having my parents for Sunday Lunch as if it was going to be a regular (and werkly) commitment!

Once a month sounds much more manageable!