Do you dress your husband?

The only time I told my husband what to wear was when we were planning a trip to the Yorkshire moors. When I told him to wrap up warm, he laughed at me and put on an ordinary jacket. Later, when I was toasty warm and he was blue with cold, he admitted I was right.

My DH has been dressing himself since 5 or so.

I have helped him with his socks when his back is bad. But apart from that he always dresses himself.

I guess Charles might be dressed by his minion though. Always a tad infantile I think.

Gundy my husband has been interested in good quality clothes and shoes since he was a child, even saving his paper-round money to buy better quality stuff than his parents would buy for him.
He knows which styles, brands and importantly which colours suit him and needs no help from anyone.

Can you explain why it is ‘sad’ that I don’t need to intervene,
or ‘ help’, other than complimenting him?

My husband was a grown man, well capable of choosing and buying his own clothes and dressing himself.

Mine's a grown man too but he'd go round looking like a tramp much of the time if I let him.

He does know how to dress appropriately when the occasion demands it.

can't you wear jeans to church ?
lots of people round here do.

My OH doesn't shop and is content to wear what is in his wardrobe until it falls apart. He just replaces like-for-like when needed. He has a style that is all his own and we would all be shocked to the core if he changed it!

DH used to be constantly in work or Fred Perry style t-shirts - he has now gone away from those entirely and loves his collection of motley short sleeved shirts.
These are a random mix of checks, stripes and interesting patterns - although he recently said he was going off checked shirts and wanted some brighter shirts!! He rarely feels the cold so wears short sleeved shirts all year round with jeans. He does possess a couple of suits but these come out for weddings and funerals!!
But now he's retired - he just reaches into the wardrobe for whatever comes to hand when it comes to shirts - he loves a smooth ironed shirt!!

Katie59

I normally wear jeans or slacks a top and a top coat if needed, he usually dresses to match me. If I do decide to wear a dress he wears chinos a shirt and sports coat, that suits me fine.
In the unlikely event that I dress inappropriately he would say but it hasnt happened yet.

I'm similar.

I'm in jeans 99% of the time, if not in a dress with jacket at Church or absolutely necessary weddings /ceremonies (I detest ceremonies).

No. My husband was a grown man, well capable of choosing and buying his own clothes and dressing himself.

I wouldn’t care to be treated like a child, so why should a man be?

My father was a very "snappy dresser" - he loved good clothes and was great with colours and textures. He knew by handle what weight wool he was dealing with, could name maybe a dozen weave structures and was the sort that could name 15 shades of, cream (!).

If you are colourblind you may want help with colours but be great with textures and fabrics. I don't see why helping someone might be a problem.

I normally wear jeans or slacks a top and a top coat if needed, he usually dresses to match me. If I do decide to wear a dress he wears chinos a shirt and sports coat, that suits me fine.
In the unlikely event that I dress inappropriately he would say but it hasnt happened yet.

My DH was very particular about his clothes, they had to be good quality and every year he visited the sales in Jermyn Street and stocked up. I would never have thought to suggest anything to him (although he did to me!)

Men’s clothes are a mystery to me so I wouldn’t be much use anyway (it’s not that we don’t care Gundy). And as someone upthread said, I wasn’t Mummy.

British men on the whole look a mess. Have a look at Italian men in Milan, Parisians or Spaniards who use colour so well and are stylish.

I think men that ask for advice/assistance in their dress are just the sweetest - they want to look good in professional and social settings. And want you to be proud of them.

My husband was always complimentary in my personal dress, but I still asked once in a while “what do you think about this?” especially if we were going out together, and certainly when it was a dressy affair, we did not want to clash.

Wives who wouldn’t think to help in husband’s sartorial style (because they’re no longer children, they’re old enough to dress themselves…) probably just don’t care. Sad.

Some men are totally snappy dressers and know what goes together and for the right occasion. Hooray!

When it’s play day, beach day, chore day - anything goes! I’m for that.

It’s just nice to collaborate on certain things like this. You’re a team!

No, my dh chooses his clothes both at home and when shopping. He’s very fussy , so I very rarely buy clothes for him. I tend up returning them .
He clothes shops twice a year in a couple of outlet malls and does ask my opinion .

Gundy my husband is also colourblind but does love bright and interesting colours. He has some stunning linen jackets - he loves them instead of a jumper this time of year but they are unusual (and fabulous colours) pale terracotta, red, a sort of shot-gold with an undershade of purple, mottled shades of blue grey, etc.
...As he also loves floral shirts he often checks with me which shirts "go" with which jacket. I don't think it's unreasonable to check out what most people would see!

Often he has found something that looks fine but sometimes it really looks odd and he'd rather look dapper than bonkers (especially if he's also wearing trousers/jeans that aren't black or blue)!

Some men are colourblind and don't accept it/know it. One in 12 men.

...Why can't they have some help if they benefit from it. They aren't toddlers and mostly would prefer to look as though they haven't been dressed by one!

A couple I knew split up. Mainly bored with each other. The husband was quickly taken over by a younger new partner, also getting over a break up. To the surprise of all who knew him suddenly he appeared happier and looked much younger. His new partner had taken him shopping for clothes and influenced his choice. He no longer looked middle aged and rather defeated. He had never shown interest in his appearance before and may have modelled himself on his own father’s taste. Fewer suits and more casual trousers and jackets made a huge difference.

In rent years my DH has merged into everyman. I struggle to find him in a supermarket - checked shirt, grey hair to glasses - there's so many of them. After 40 odd yrs I've started buying him clothes - it never used to be like this. I dread that I look like the stereotypical old woman, maybe I do but I hope not !

The last time I dressed DH was for his cremation.

He would have been furious if I’d wasted a good suit or anything smart that could have gone to the charity shop of the hospice that cared for him at home so he wore his favourite combat trousers that were ideal for fishing and his Bah Humbug! Christmas T shirt.

Unsupervised, my husband would wear mud brown trousers and a navy blue shirt. Not. Got. A. Clue. 🥴

I did once suggest to him that if he was feeling low, dressing in worn out clothing didn’t help. He smartened up a bit and it helped.

I loath some of the clothes DH wears, but I love him.
He favours combat trousers, I hate them, but he doesn’t comment on what I wear.

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Bump bump!

We did come to an agreement that he would never leave the house in jogging bottoms. Over the years I learned not to say anything about his choice of shoes or socks, or his habit of wearing a sweat shirt with a suit. I bought most of his clothes because he didn't shop.

LOUISA1523

Hes 62....he dresses himself

Yes, considerably too old to be told.

Our daughters worry over his jeans (I don't), he's slim as can be, usual I suppose in late 70's, and his bum is disappearing.

His white shirts will always look smart with anything, nothing to worry over -- except daft coloured golf clothing.