What would you do?

I would start by asking your son, who lives near your daughter if he wouldn’t mind driving you home. Two hour journey would be a good chance for the two of you to catch up. If he didn’t want to do the 2 hour return drive could he stay one night with you and your husband or even stay a night in a Travel Lodge type hotel? It is depends on his health and stamina.

I’d say to daughter i don’t mind waiting an extra day until you feel up to the drive. After all you are helping her out by staying in her house . No i wouldn’t let a man order me around I’d let him toss his dummy out and say fine I will get train and you can look after the dog too lol

Leave your dog with husband. At the end of your house sitting meander home staying at interesting places. Plenty of art galleries, National Trust properties etc.

Ask son, and go by train..husband can pay the train/ taxi

I see you offered to do this and when your husband changed his mind from staying with you, he’s still offering to take you. I actually don’t think up to that point he’s being unreasonable in thinking the younger family members should offer to bring you home. He’s being considerate in thinking the journey by train won’t be easy for you. Sometimes our children get so used to us offering to help they don’t think to reciprocate (should but don’t!) so I don’t think it unreasonable to say to your daughter that Dad’s bringing me but he’s going to be busy at the end of the holiday, so can she or her husband do the return journey. Not easy to ask I know, but not unreasonable. I think his current stance is made out of subconscious frustration, more than bossiness, maybe feeling you do a lot but don’t get much back maybe.

Since you do not specify whether you DD is also his DD, that is one thing one would need to know before wading in.
If she is also his DD, then he ought to be more empathic to her needs.
If not, maybe the following Qs might help to untangle what you are faced with.

Is this a typical thing with your DH? (I.e. choosing to remain at home and let you go elsewhere without him.)

If not, maybe you should try insisting he comes with you and see what kind of reaction that produces.

It looks very odd, to me.

Whilst I appreciate that this forum is great for sharing problems, I feel this request is a step too far. We are NOT Marriage Guidance counsellors. !

Wouldn't go by train with a puppy and a suitcase especially with the changes involved.
Is it possible DH will calm down and change his mind?
You've committed to going now so tell your husband he can either take you and bring you back or you'll just take the car and drive yourself. Failing that if DH is still willing to drive you there then you will have no alternative but to ask DD to drive you home sometime after their hols.

Go and house sit, worry about getting home when it happens, OH might have calmed down and missed you will come and get you

Keep your mouth shut right now, go to your daughter's as planned, and take the train home. If you fear the puppy may wee in the wrong place, take a damp floorcloth in a plastic bag with you and a bottle of water for mopping up.

Arrive home with no notice given, and if your darling daugher's daddy is still in the huff, tell him to be his age.

Poor choice of words, he is being his age, I suspect - grumpy old man, tell him to put a sock in it!

I would phone my DD and ask if there is a possibility of her taking you home. If not try son. If either agrees to help accept DH’s offer to drive you there and assure him someone is bringing you back. If neither DC can help for a valid reason it looks like you are on the train both ways
I can never see the problem with pet/house sitting, different walks, different shops, places to visit, however, if he wants to paint the boat so be it. Good luck

You take the car so you can use it while you’re away. Or you incorporate a mini break on your way home to break your journey up using trains/taxis. Your life, your body, your choice.

I'd missed the part where the arrangements had been made but your husband has now changed his mind.

He's being unfair to everyone in my opinion.
He's the one who's causing the complications and he should be the one sorting it out, ie collecting you himself.

A few choices!
1. Cant you drive yourself there?
2. Taxi to take you home? Perhaps your son/ daughter could pay half.
3. Ask your son to take you home. It would be nice for his dad to see him.
4. You have offered to go and do this. Your husband has offered to take you. I think he is generous to do that. It’s up to you to sort your return journey if you go.
5. If you go return on the train with puppy. Just take a cross body bag and a back pack. Re el light.
6. You don’t have to tell your husband how you are getting back. Say your daughter will you home and then if you feel up to it just get the train back! Not a lot he can do about that because you’ll already be there!

You can sort this! Go girl!

Can someone eg. your daughter take you to the station and your husband pick you up at the other end? or get a taxi.

How very dare he indeed. Certainly he is throwing his dummy out of the pram in his great big trantrum. There is lots of very good advice for you here. Have you done this train journey before. Is the dog used to train journeys. If not I would consider alternative arrangements for it. And I would have already booked my seat on the train by now. Good luck. I hope it all works out for you. But don't be bullied into changing your plans.

* ....... then you’re not going!*

Ahem ...... is he your boss? Are you a child?

You can do what you like!

I would leave the puppy behind and get a train both ways. If your husband can't be co-operative and help both you and your daughter then make him at least take responsibility for the dog..

If you drive , could you not drive there and back ? That gives you some freedom when you’re there .
Otherwise could you dh and dd meet halfway on both journeys ? You could have lunch or a coffee . You’re doing your dd and her family a favour after all .
We do this when my mum goes to my sister. Who’s a 2 hour drive away . Also with my goddaughter who’s a 4 hour drive .
I would certainly object to my husband telling me what to do .

Dcba I love that idea. 🤣🤣🤣

Assert your independence ……hire an Uber to bring you back home and charge it your husband’s credit card!

If this were me I would leave my dog behind with the husband and go to my daughters on the train and back on the train a day after the family get back so you can hear all about their lovely holiday straight away. I value being independent and don’t like asking for help so wouldn’t even consider expecting to be taken and collected even though you are doing your family a favour. If you are able I don’t know why you are expecting to have lifts.

How about a compromise? A meeting point roughly half way (pub meal with DD or other family - one lot there, one back perhaps?)
Hubby still only doing same mileage, couple of nice meals with family, win win!
(NB. Make sure the pub/restaurant is dog friendly!)
Alternatively just meet halfway and swap without the meal (easy to meet up anywhere these days with a google maps pin!

1, keep on with the wax dolly.
If you can drive, take the car - much easier for you when there if you have transport so you can go shopping, visit your son etc.
If not, then see if your son could give you a lift home, but failing all else, the train would be OK, depending on your health and agility, and the dog's behaviour / if it would worry on the train.
Ignore the black mirror.....

The answer is obvious. Kennels