What would you do?

You are doing DD a favour. Could she not bring you back one or two days after she returns when she has recovered from travelling?

Just do what you want to do, he wont be there so it's nothing to do with him.

Speak to your daughter about bringing you back.
You will have done her a big service.

I think we sometimes forget that our children are adults. She should surely be able to help the next day or day after depending on their arrival time back home.

You have offered to house-sit. this says to me that you would like to do it and were not asked, but your DD accepted your offer.

You are expecting DH to accommodate your choice even though he has stated clearly his intentions.

You have three choices here it seems to me:

Don't go and let someone else care for the dog

Go and enjoy your stay and make your own way home.

Ask your son

I don't see what the issue is here at all.

you take the car

Mum often stuck in the middle trying to please everyone. Sounds like it is DH who has changed the plans.
I agree he shouldn’t be telling you what to do.
Might be nice having some peace and quiet. Going on the train doesn’t sound fun especially with a puppy.
One idea would be to incorporate some sort of mini break when you reunite e.g. a dog friendly hotel or cottage to break up the drive. That way it isn’t a 4 hour drive. Just a thought.

I very often look after my children's dogs when they are away but I have them at my house. Could your daughter not drop the dog at your house and pick up the dog once they get home.

Leave your own dog at home with not-so-dear H?

Continue sticking the pins in the little doggie and do exactly what you like! DH could do both journeys quite easily, after all he’s getting a fortnights “peace” from you and the pup! Do let us know what happens x

Oh my, dolly! Not doggie, please don’t stick any pins in your dear pup!

I would ask my daughter if she or her husband could bring me home when they’ve recovered from their holiday. You are, after all, doing them a big favour. And I hope your husband feels suitably guilty about his meanness and pettiness, which will not go unnoticed by your daughter.

Or, as I gather they say on MN, LTB!

Surely your DD or DSiLcan drive you home the day after they return from their holiday?
You're doing them a huge favour, and saving them a lot of money, by offering your house and dog sitting services for free.
Surely they should be able to summon the energyafter a two week holiday to make a two hour journey, have a rest with a drink etc, then make a two hour journey home!
I'm with your DH on this, they should bring you home!

Really, they should be collecting you tok I think.

Your daughter would have spent every hour with the children, she may like the idea of having a few hours in the car alone.

Taking you home is not much to ask after what you are doing for them, I agree with your husband.

I am fiercely independent and would do what suited me best. Do you not drive? I would get it sorted now with DD and ask if she plans to take you back home.

We're all different but I think I would explain the dilemma to both daughter and son who is in the same town and ask if either can help. Your daughter may be happy to bring you back a day or so after they return, after all you are doing her a favour. If all else fails could you not leave the dog with your husband and travel both ways by train? I do think he has a point about a young dog and a case on a train journey. There will be a way if this is something you really want to do and yes, keep the pins going, it will make you feel better. I hope your husband calms down and between you all a way can be found. It's such a shame when there is strife about family support.

Ask your DD or SIL if they would be able to take you back . I do wish people would talk to each other, saves a lot of problems.
If you drive why can’t you have the car ? Your DH won’t need it, he’ll be busy doing all those jobs.

I wouldn’t be asking anyone to fetch me I d go on the train whether I had a dog or not I also think you’re husband is right he’d be bored stiff in someone else’s house much better he can be pottering around doing stuff in his own home
I don’t see why your daughter or son in law couldn’t bring you home the next day or alternatively ask your son after all your husband is taking you so he’s not all bad

Just decide what you are doing and do it. If he wont take you just go on the train. Tell him you'll leave the dog if he thinks it's too much on the train. Stop letting him call all the shots re your plans. But also ask your daughter and son for suggestions and options

I'd ask daughter to take me back half way so husband (or daughter) doesn't have such a long drive.

karmalady

you take the car

Sounds an obvious solution!

You’ll potentially have three people who could drive you back, daughter in law, son in law, or son.
Just discuss it with them you could always stay on a day or two before they take you home, and son is around too.

one of the younger people should drive you back.
not inconvenience your husband.
nor should you go by train.