What would you do?

Not everyone drives. I don't for one

Not everyone drives

Well, purely and simply to teach DH that I’m not under his control I’d be sorely tempted to take a taxi. (OK, and a 2nd mortgage!). Good luck

My biggest problem would be my husband telling me what I could or couldn't do. He's my partner not my boss! Did not so DH say that he was going to go with you and has now changed his mind? If so, it might be worth reminding him gently that he has changed the plans so you would prefer not to put more strain on your daughter. That said, if he is prepared to take you, it wouldn't be unreasonable for another member of the family to bring you back.

I think its right that its going to be a struggle by train and he doesn't have to come and get you BUT its not up to him to lay the law down.

Can you not drive yourself?

It seems you had a plan and Dh is changing it up and that wouldn’t sit well with me. So I wouldn’t be going back on what I agreed to and asking dd for a ride back. I’d tell Dh he could take me and pick me. Up or id need to be taking the car myself for the fortnight and I’d see him upon my return.

Don't catch the train home with luggage and a puppy. That really is a very bad idea. Your daughter should bring you home as you have done her a big favour. Assuming she's young and fit (and just returned from a relaxing holiday) I don't think it's much hardship to drive you the following day. I wouldn't have dreamt of letting my mum struggle on the train and I wouldn't have entertained all this palaver.

I’m assuming you don’t drive, narrowboatnan, so I agree with your husband that DD or her other half should bring you home - you are doing them a big favour and it’s the least they can do. Your DH is doing his bit by getting you there.

However, he really has no business telling you what to do, and you need to make that clear. Whatever you decide to do, make sure he knows that!

I can easily understand why anyone, my husband included, would prefer their own home to going away to an empty home with wife and dog.

Oh my - the thought to two weeks boredom of such a venture would make anyone spit out their dummy and throw toys out of pram.

Your daughter is asking too much, imo, and should at the very least accomplish your transportation - make life easier for you.

Do what you want, I would let your take you, and then come home on the train. Do not let your husband dictate to you. You're not going, good grief I would make sure I went, like you said, how dare he.

one of the younger people should drive you back.
not inconvenience your husband.
nor should you go by train.

You’ll potentially have three people who could drive you back, daughter in law, son in law, or son.
Just discuss it with them you could always stay on a day or two before they take you home, and son is around too.

karmalady

you take the car

Sounds an obvious solution!

I'd ask daughter to take me back half way so husband (or daughter) doesn't have such a long drive.

Just decide what you are doing and do it. If he wont take you just go on the train. Tell him you'll leave the dog if he thinks it's too much on the train. Stop letting him call all the shots re your plans. But also ask your daughter and son for suggestions and options

I wouldn’t be asking anyone to fetch me I d go on the train whether I had a dog or not I also think you’re husband is right he’d be bored stiff in someone else’s house much better he can be pottering around doing stuff in his own home
I don’t see why your daughter or son in law couldn’t bring you home the next day or alternatively ask your son after all your husband is taking you so he’s not all bad

Ask your DD or SIL if they would be able to take you back . I do wish people would talk to each other, saves a lot of problems.
If you drive why can’t you have the car ? Your DH won’t need it, he’ll be busy doing all those jobs.

We're all different but I think I would explain the dilemma to both daughter and son who is in the same town and ask if either can help. Your daughter may be happy to bring you back a day or so after they return, after all you are doing her a favour. If all else fails could you not leave the dog with your husband and travel both ways by train? I do think he has a point about a young dog and a case on a train journey. There will be a way if this is something you really want to do and yes, keep the pins going, it will make you feel better. I hope your husband calms down and between you all a way can be found. It's such a shame when there is strife about family support.

I am fiercely independent and would do what suited me best. Do you not drive? I would get it sorted now with DD and ask if she plans to take you back home.

Your daughter would have spent every hour with the children, she may like the idea of having a few hours in the car alone.

Taking you home is not much to ask after what you are doing for them, I agree with your husband.

Really, they should be collecting you tok I think.

Surely your DD or DSiLcan drive you home the day after they return from their holiday?
You're doing them a huge favour, and saving them a lot of money, by offering your house and dog sitting services for free.
Surely they should be able to summon the energyafter a two week holiday to make a two hour journey, have a rest with a drink etc, then make a two hour journey home!
I'm with your DH on this, they should bring you home!

I would ask my daughter if she or her husband could bring me home when they’ve recovered from their holiday. You are, after all, doing them a big favour. And I hope your husband feels suitably guilty about his meanness and pettiness, which will not go unnoticed by your daughter.

Or, as I gather they say on MN, LTB!

Oh my, dolly! Not doggie, please don’t stick any pins in your dear pup!