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Cossy Sun 16-Jun-24 11:04:14

Continue sticking the pins in the little doggie and do exactly what you like! DH could do both journeys quite easily, after all he’s getting a fortnights “peace” from you and the pup! Do let us know what happens x

ExDancer Sun 16-Jun-24 10:53:09

Leave your own dog at home with not-so-dear H?

rosie1959 Sun 16-Jun-24 10:41:50

I very often look after my children's dogs when they are away but I have them at my house. Could your daughter not drop the dog at your house and pick up the dog once they get home.

SpanielCuddler Sun 16-Jun-24 10:37:52

Mum often stuck in the middle trying to please everyone. Sounds like it is DH who has changed the plans.
I agree he shouldn’t be telling you what to do.
Might be nice having some peace and quiet. Going on the train doesn’t sound fun especially with a puppy.
One idea would be to incorporate some sort of mini break when you reunite e.g. a dog friendly hotel or cottage to break up the drive. That way it isn’t a 4 hour drive. Just a thought.

karmalady Sun 16-Jun-24 10:29:44

you take the car

keepingquiet Sun 16-Jun-24 10:28:26

You have offered to house-sit. this says to me that you would like to do it and were not asked, but your DD accepted your offer.

You are expecting DH to accommodate your choice even though he has stated clearly his intentions.

You have three choices here it seems to me:

Don't go and let someone else care for the dog

Go and enjoy your stay and make your own way home.

Ask your son

I don't see what the issue is here at all.

NotSpaghetti Sun 16-Jun-24 10:28:01

I think we sometimes forget that our children are adults. She should surely be able to help the next day or day after depending on their arrival time back home.

NotSpaghetti Sun 16-Jun-24 10:26:19

Speak to your daughter about bringing you back.
You will have done her a big service.

Galaxy Sun 16-Jun-24 10:24:27

Just do what you want to do, he wont be there so it's nothing to do with him.

Greenfinch Sun 16-Jun-24 10:17:36

You are doing DD a favour. Could she not bring you back one or two days after she returns when she has recovered from travelling?

narrowboatnan Sun 16-Jun-24 10:14:34

My DD and family are going to foreign parts for two weeks in July and I have offered to house sit and dog sit. My DH (though not so Dear just now!) was coming with me but has now decided that my absence would be a good opportunity for him to get on with jobs on the boat without tripping over me and the dog (she’s coming with me). He says he’ll take me - it’s a two hour drive - and return home the next day. He is, however, very sticky about returning to collect me at the end of the fortnight. He thinks that my DD should bring me back! I pointed out that, having just returned from her holiday, with four children and a husband tired from travelling, plane delays etc would not be in a good place to add a four hour round trip onto the top of that!

I said I would go by train, but he thinks that would be unwise with an 8-month old puppy and a suitcase, especially as I have two train changes to make and then get from one end of Birmingham New Street Station to the other to make my last connection.

He has now spat his dummy out, along with throwing all his toys out of his pram and told me in no uncertain terms that “if she doesn’t bring you home then you’re not going!”

How dare he tell me what to do!! Do I (1). carry on sticking pins in my little wax doll; (2) say stuff it and go by train anyway; or (3) see if my son, who lives in the same town as my DD, to bring me back

WWYD?