When being helpful not being helpful & drives you crazy

@NanaTuesday - is it possible that this person has financial worries or doesn’t like to part with their cash?
I’ve a friend who counts every penny and I’ve noticed she is so afraid of parting with her cash that she goes back and forward with arrangements (like countless WhatsApp messages) that I wonder is she afraid to purchase in case there is a cheaper deal around the corner. And then she gets really stressed at the last minute, often because she has missed that cheaper deal.

I would just leave her to buy the ticket and expect to go to the concert alone.. maybe she'll get round to it...

Germanshepherdsmum

Oh dear. But perhaps you have been spared …

Germanshepardmum ,
My thoughts has gone in that direction lately😂

crazyH

She is probably having the ‘jitters’ about travelling to this concert. Something has changed between November and now. Her health, perhaps. Is the ticket transferable. She could sell it on to someone who is interested.

CrazyH
I know health is often an issue here but I didn’t think of it like that , thank you for pointing it out 🙏
I have the ticket as like everything nowadays it is an ‘ e ticket’ . 🎫
Though , I haven’t had the ££’s for it as yet , which I wasn’t too concerned about but yes I am sure my DH will come if push comes to shove though that would mean an additional cost for our pooches .

Oh dear. But perhaps you have been spared …

Jaxjacky

That made me laugh Pantglas 🙂
There are always the faffers, I expect others to be as organised as I am, often they aren’t, it’s the price you pay for being chief planner.
You then choose whether just to go on your own next time, take total control, or rely on someone else to sort it out.

Jaxjacky
Plantgas
Yes , I am always the one on top of bookings , if we get a family wedding invite for instance , it’s me who will book the hotels for every one . The same for most things . I can’t work out why this person just hasn’t grasped the concept .
As I haven’t heard since the last message 17/06 I will leave as is .
I did already say at the end of last week when we had the exact same scenario ‘ just let me know what time train you book ‘
Which left it in their corner . I’m not repeating it as it will just seem like I am being annoying 😢

Germanshepherdsmum

Your relative would drive me mad, NanaTuesday. You have the patience of a saint. Soon it will all be over. Make a mental note never to do it again!

Germanshepardmum
Funnily enough or not in this case .
There was a long haul trip being planned , this person along with myself & 2 other relatives being the travellers. It had been in the planning stages since summer 2023 with dates agreed , holidays from work agreed where needed . We had arranged a day to get together to book flights ( travelling across London & beyond ) To cut a long story short , this was the very person who hadn’t even looked at anything that had been sent regarding flights , flight plans that had been meticulously arranged to suit everyone . So I shouldn’t be surprised 😳
This trip has been grounded for now due to personal reasons for one of the other travellers . I feel that I can breath a sigh of relief about that & make my excuses next time .

That made me laugh Pantglas 🙂
There are always the faffers, I expect others to be as organised as I am, often they aren’t, it’s the price you pay for being chief planner.
You then choose whether just to go on your own next time, take total control, or rely on someone else to sort it out.

I tend to be the organiser as well!
One train trip with a friend years ago, I researched, sent her the details, bought the tickets. Sent her all the timings.
Nearer the time she needed me to send her the details again as she'd deleted everything!
I was tempted to say something...

Sounds like anxiety to me. You’ve helped all you can, just hang on to patience and enjoy the event.

Your relative would drive me mad, NanaTuesday. You have the patience of a saint. Soon it will all be over. Make a mental note never to do it again!

This made me smile because I’m the organiser for agreed outings with all my different groups of friends and they all behave quite differently when informed of where, when and how much!

Most read it once and give me a thumbs up in reply, some need reassurance/reminders on a weekly basis because they can’t scroll back through messages.

There are one or two who almost need me to wake them early with breakfast, dress them and offer a door to door service on the day before tucking them in bed with cocoa and a story!

I love them all but ….🫨

She is probably having the ‘jitters’ about travelling to this concert. Something has changed between November and now. Her health, perhaps. Is the ticket transferable. She could sell it on to someone who is interested.