Asking for lodger to leave

Germanshepherdsmum

The police won’t get involved in a civil matter, which this is.

in my experience they will provide support to a vulnerable person who os being harassed, esp in her own home.
i would contact them on 101 asap, when he's out.
also age uk, cab etc.
good luck.
what about your GS's father, could he help enforce the notice to quit.
meanwhile, try to keep out of lodger's way, don't engage with him or discuss anything.
keep yourself to yourself.
if you can have supportive friends/family dropping in randomly, that would be good.

I would contact Age UK and see if someone could come and help you on the last day... or if you belong to a church.. a church member.. it sounds as though you'll need some support in this situation..

The police won’t get involved in a civil matter, which this is.

Well he certainly seems to think he's the boss, doesn't he!
As you've given him 28 days that means you expect him to be out on a certain date.
Ring, or call into, your local police station and tell them you've given him notice to leave the premises on that date but you're worried he won't go or will create trouble and ask them if you can have a constable or 2 around to reiterate he goes - you should also give him a time to be ouf by so the police aren't hanging around all day. Be sure to let them know ASAP!!
I can't guarantee they'll be there, but they do try to help!
Also, tell your friends and family that he's moving out and gave someone there who can change your door locks for you - he may say he has given you his keys, but to be on the safe side have the locks changed!!!
Is there a friend or relative who could stay the first couple of nights in case he tries anything?
Put a notice to quit on his room door, too, so he knows you mean it.
I'd supply some binbags for his stuff.
The police and CAB can advise you!

www.gov.uk/rent-room-in-your-home/ending-a-letting

is very clear on this

Ending a letting

How to end an excluded tenancy or licence

If your lodger is an excluded occupier, you only need to give them ‘reasonable notice’ to quit.

Usually this means the length of the rental payment period – so if your lodger pays rent weekly, you need to give 1 week’s notice. The notice does not have to be in writing.

You can then change the locks on your lodger’s rooms, even if they’ve left their belongings there. You must give their belongings back to them.

Your lodger is an excluded occupier is if:

•they live in your home
•you or a member of your family share a kitchen, bathroom or living room with them

As you share a kitchen he is an excluded occupier

Agreed.

You have given him sufficient notice if he is only a lodger - and he shouldn’t have people staying with him unless that is within your arrangement.

I doubt he will leave easily. Do you have a burly male friend who could back you up? If not and he doesn’t leave on time, have the locks changed and put his possessions outside in bin bags whilst he’s out.

It sounds to me like a coercive relationship. You need professional legal help. Maybe the CAB or Age Concern can advise in the first instance.

Is the lodger your grandson, or does your grandson also live with you?

What were the arrangements under which he came to live with you? Dod you have a proper contract or was it an informal arrangement.

Either way you sound quite vulnerable. Have you started to seek out sheltered accommodation for yourself? What do these people say- maybe you could move out sooner?

Do you own the property? Or is it rented? You don't really give enough details and this affects the actions you can take.

It sounds like this person is taking advantage of you and certainly needs to modify his behaviour.

You need to seek help on this one I'm afraid, but the lack of concrete info regarding your circumstances makes it difficult to know what to say.

I’m sure you need legal advice on this - what does his rental lease say? Personally, I’d make sure I’d given him notice in writing, then once his ‘time’ is up, I’d pack up his belongings for him to take, change the locks if necessary and refuse to accept any more rent.

You sound in quite a vulnerable position and I wonder if it’s worth having a word with a local Police Officer?