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Asking for lodger to leave

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Regina65 Thu 04-Jul-24 13:21:47

Hi I have a lodger who today I gave him 28 days notice to leave.he has asked me for a reason why he has to go so I said I'd like my house back and planning to move within the next 2 to 3 months to a sheltered accommodation due to my disability and need to start packing getting rid of stuff.He stated that 28 days isn't enough time and that I can use other room for storage.to be honest I want him gone asap he cooks late at night till early hours I can't get to sleep.he talks loud at night on speaker phone despite me telling him to lower it down.he interferes when I tell my granson off leaves stuff cooking on stove while going off to have a shower windows are shut kitchin full of steam have told him hundreds of times I do the telling off open windows when cooking but it doesn't seem to sink in his head.the last straw was he took my bottled water in his room plus helping himself to other stuff I csnt take anymore.the list goes on.1 time I was cooking he came in started cooking rather wait till I finished he carried on.i have the feeling he won't leave.i don't know what to do.he also told me his friend coming to stay for a week I told him he's not staying here but the lodger just went out without saying anything

JenniferEccles Sat 13-Jul-24 22:46:14

So pleased to see that the troublesome individual has been sent packing. Excellent news.

There’s certainly a lesson here for anyone who might be considering taking in a lodger.
A risky thing to do.

biglouis Fri 12-Jul-24 02:29:08

Good outcome. Its often useful to have another man on the scene.

Moonwatcher1904 Fri 12-Jul-24 01:13:31

I've just found your post again Regina as I wanted to know how you went on. I hope you're feeling better and well done to your nephews for getting rid of the bully.
I wish you well when you move to your new home. xxx

pinkpeony Thu 11-Jul-24 21:12:59

I am so glad you have got it sorted Regina. Now you can take your time recovering and planning your move. Good luck. xx

OldFrill Thu 11-Jul-24 20:23:10

What a relief Regina, all the best in your new home!

Fleur20 Thu 11-Jul-24 18:36:19

Well done your nephews!!
Cowardly bully..like them all!
This gives you time and space to prepare for your big move.
Wishing you every happiness in your new home.

rafichagran Thu 11-Jul-24 15:12:41

Goid news, get well soon.

Wyllow3 Thu 11-Jul-24 15:11:59

😊

Desdemona Thu 11-Jul-24 15:08:57

Good outcome, wishing you all the best in your new home xx

Aveline Thu 11-Jul-24 13:36:39

I'm so glad to hear this Regina. I hope you enjoy a more relaxed life in your new home.

DamaskRose Thu 11-Jul-24 13:35:45

Great news Regina.

HiPpyChick57 Thu 11-Jul-24 13:33:27

Fab news. Good riddance. Glad everything worked out for you in the end.
Same old same old though, the ones that bully a woman draw the line at treating males with the same level of contempt… funny that!

welbeck Thu 11-Jul-24 13:26:37

Yippee !!!

Cabbie21 Thu 11-Jul-24 13:18:17

So pleased

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 11-Jul-24 12:57:01

Brilliant outcome! Get well soon.

NotSpaghetti Thu 11-Jul-24 12:53:18

Great news Regina!
Now just get well.
flowers

BigMamma Thu 11-Jul-24 12:44:03

Just seen this last posting of yours. Thank goodness and I am glad you have got it sorted. Thank god for male relatives.

Chocolatelovinggran Thu 11-Jul-24 12:43:42

Thank goodness Regina, your plight has been on my mind. I am so glad to hear of the resolution and of your plans for the future.
I wish you many happy times in your new place.

BigMamma Thu 11-Jul-24 12:42:37

I think if you went to the police and explained your position they would definitely help someone in your position who wants to move to a home to cater for your disability and who is at the moment being bullied by the lodger. I do n ot think they would dare refuse to help in case something happened to you.

Regina65 Thu 11-Jul-24 12:36:10

Hi sorry to get back late ive been in hospital for 10 days however I had 2 of my nephews staying at mine while in hospital they got rid of him before I got back i won't be getting anymore lodgers but will be moving to a sheltered accommodation in October which will be a blessing.thankyou all for your help and advice very much appreciated it's a Wight lifted off my shoulders xx

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 10-Jul-24 14:31:31

There is no need for legal advice or to trouble the CAB. If the lodger pays his ‘rent’ every four weeks that is a perfectly adequate notice period. If he pays weekly it is longer than necessary. How long he might need to get references checked for a new abode is irrelevant. He is a lodger, not a tenant.

ordinarygirl Wed 10-Jul-24 14:26:21

personally I think 28 days is too short notice as many new landlords want time to check references.

I would echo the advice to speak to a solicitor or to the CAB

EmilyHarburn Mon 08-Jul-24 16:35:18

My friend had a man who would not leave. She gave him notice and the police came round on the day to see that he left.

welbeck Mon 08-Jul-24 10:06:24

he is a lodger, not a tenant.
OP doesn't need legal advice, she needs support.
contact police.
mention of moving someone else in could be seen as threatening, he may be planning to oust you, by making your life unbearable there, a cuckooing operation.
such things often happen to vulnerable occupiers.

biglouis Sun 07-Jul-24 23:53:35

biglouis is right. He needs a punch

Hey, I didnt say punch anyone. That can get you into trouble!

Just having one or two men around can usually do the trick. They dont have to be big but it probably helps.

You just need a few phrases like "Im sure you dont want any trouble but XXX"

"My grandmother has given you notice so we thought you might need a hand packing."