How would you deal with this?

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Personally I'd have taken them. But that's just me.

If they can afford to go away they can afford a taxi.. don't give it another thought.. she probably hasn't now she's found someone else..

no, don't make excuses.
don't assume you are in the wrong, OP.
it didn't suit you to do it, it wasn't an emergency, there were other options eg taxi, and she's got someone else to take her.
stop agonising about it.
you are making your life needlessly difficult.

You could always say. It was awkward when you asked me to take you as it was early, and l find it very difficult with my body in the mornings it takes a while to get climatised. Achey bones etc.

I am in a crafting group and so is one of our neighbours. One particular week she said she coolant get there the following week a her car was in for repair . I straight away said 'no worries, I will take you to craft group and afterwards I will drive you to collect you car. She took me up on my offer.........but now doesn't bother to speak to me at all - won't be volunteering again.

We contacted Hillary's Blinds to put a roof blinds in our conservatory. Since it was built in 2015, we managed with 4 blanket curtains as ceiling against the sun. Finally, husband said he's ready to spend for a decent roof blinds. We had to take down the blankets to enable the surveyor to measure and estimate the cost. We agreed with the 2,700 pounds quote. Problem is husband would not agree to Hillary's requirement of 50 % down, then 50 % on installation. So we are left with exposed roof as it's impossible to put back the old ones that kept on falling away anyway. I think he's being unreasonable. What do you think?

Husband being unreasonable and stubborn.

Counselling can be a very useful thing but this worry expressed by the OP is not in the realm of a psychological issue.

The neighbour should have ordered a taxi the night before.

i too have suffered similar situations.\when I was ill a neighbour offered to do my shopping. Just bread and teabags was all I required..... the answer was..( Ill get those for you BUT I only go shopping on a Friday !! ) Sad to say my request was on a Monday!!! Have learnt from that!!

why am I made to feel the bad person here, for just saying no.

You aren’t being made to feel bad.
You’re choosing to react by feeling bad.
Get over it.

There's no way I could have agreed to give a lift at 7am as I need at least an hour to be safe to drive first thing in the morning.
We help our neighbours quite a lot, eg put their meds in our fridge when their electric meter cut out, mow their very tiny front lawn, OH helped with flat pack furniture, etc. It's always reciprocated as they water our garden if we're away, bought OH a crate of beer, bought us cakes and chocolates for doing the grass etc and we borrowed a cup of milk one Sunday night when we got home late lol.
If someone doesn't like you because you couldn't give a lift at 7am OP they have a problem not you. Remember they will need you before you need them. Best wishes xx

It’ll come out in the wash but there maybe a time You need a favour …Couldn’t they gave got a cab?

I’m sure on the way to the bus station she would have given you the pick up time for when the holiday was over, you did yourself a favour.

Mumto4

A friend once said to me today’s favour turns into tomorrow’s chore.

A friend is finding this out and is becoming desperate with the demands on her and her time.

A friend once said to me today’s favour turns into tomorrow’s chore.

"No is a complete sentence. It does not require an explanation to follow. You can truly answer someone’s request with a simple no."
Sharon E Rainey

simplish.co/blog/saying-no-quotes

I think she should have opened with “what time to you usually get up?”. Then she would have known not to ask you. If no one had been able to help I’m sure they would have managed to get a taxi.
To me a favour is something you can do for someone without it having a big impact on your life - even for one day.
If she is miffed then let her get over it but don’t feel bad about it. You did what was right for you.
Next time she asks for a favour say “ have you asked so and so, you did say he was as good as gold?”

* atherineca* you feel bad because you’d normally help. I think you were very good saying no because it could happen again at a time that is not good for you. She sounds thoughtless and it’s possibly because she is used to others always saying yes. At least she knows not to ask for such an inconvenient time again. However my main point is regarding WhatsApp, I know some people who have it, can read messages but somehow can’t send from it no matter how myself and others have tried to get them familiar with it. So she possibly wasn’t ignoring your message and was just thoughtless in not texting back or popping round to reply that it was okay. As for the “he’s good as gold” again possibly thoughtless remark, I’d have been put out while agreeing with her to throw her remark back in case it was a dig. If it was then she’s in the wrong again, definitely not you and you did well in not putting yourself out. If it was a vital lift it might be different but you even gave her an alternative suggestion and know she can book taxis. So forget it and enjoy your day is what I think.

A lot of us older people find it difficult to get going in the morning. Benefit of hindsight - you could've said you aren't safe to drive until later, I hope you can find a solution.

Taxis of course!

I wouldn’t dream of asking anyone to get up so early, even my own family! Couldn’t she have booked a taxi? I wouldn’t feel at all bad about it! Up to her to arrange her own transport without relying on other people. Ignore the carping. it makes her look somewhat needy.

I agree fully with other GNs here - this neighbour asking you to provide a holiday taxi service sounds like a real cheek, as is the early start which would be required. (It's one thing to help someone out in an emergency, but quite another when you are being asked to provide them with a money-saving service for their holiday!) atherinaca, IMO you are wise to have declined; with any luck this should keep her from making further unreasonable requests like this in the future.

I wouldn’t dream of asking anyone for a lift I’d get a taxi. I’m not a people pleaser I find it easy to say no. If something was an emergency it’s different. I wouldn’t feel bad either wouldn’t give in another thought. I very often pick up bits of shopping for ppl but I wouldn’t expect anyone to do anything for me. That’s how I am

What's wrong with a taxi?

Well said sandelf.