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Are we looking younger than our mothers/grandmothers did at the same age?

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Sago Tue 20-Aug-24 09:55:58

I am 61, I don’t feel I look particularly young or old for my age, yet when I think back to my mother at 60 she looked very old in comparison.

The internet has been wonderful to keep up with trends and styles and skincare and cosmetics are far more sophisticated.

So are we looking/dressing younger or am delusional?

GrannyGravy13 Tue 20-Aug-24 10:02:01

I was blessed with two stylish Grandparents and a glamorous Mother.

My darling Mum was so concerned about her grey showing that in the week before she went into a Hospice I took her to the hairdressers for a colour and cut, then we went shopping (I hired a wheelchair) for new slippers and knickers, stylish to the very end 💔

JaneJudge Tue 20-Aug-24 10:02:37

I think women have refused to be pigeon holed because of their age. Can you remember the beige trouser shops with the elasticated waist dresses (which seem to be in fashion now!)? There was a certain way women were advised to dress. Maybe fashion retailers have realised that those with higher disposable incomes to spend on clothing are those who are older, paid off their mortgages etc and are now marketing their goods at this age bracket

Shinamae Tue 20-Aug-24 10:06:10

We have the benefit of make up and good skin care which our grandmother certainly did not have( or hair dye)
Also, they did not have the benefit of washing machines and hoovers, and other labour saving devices
I think our grandmother‘s worked so hard the last thing they thought about was how they looked..

harrigran Tue 20-Aug-24 10:06:25

My mother died before she reached my age and yes she did look older back then. I wear tight trousers and tunic tops, she never wore a pair of trousers ever.

Baggs Tue 20-Aug-24 10:07:51

I don't actually care how old I look. Never have. Never will.

eazybee Tue 20-Aug-24 10:09:31

The reason most of us do look better than our mothers at the same age is down to better health, nutrition, dental, eye and skin care and hair dye!

annodomini Tue 20-Aug-24 10:10:43

As my mum never reached the age I am now, I, very sadly, can't speak for her. Maternal Granny became quite stooped in her 80s and went to live, alternately, with my parents and my aunt and uncle. I can't remember her with anything but curly silver hair and in that I do resemble her. Paternal Granny, in her 80s was upright and, at a good age still walked to and from the shops - and she lived at the top of quite a steep road. Her white hair was scraped backwards into a scrawny little bun. I think I look younger, but am nothing like so energetic!

Calendargirl Tue 20-Aug-24 10:11:13

Of course we look younger. I’m a granny to 5 GC, ages ranging from 22-16.5. I’m early 70’s.

I look younger then my mum did at 40, because she had frizzy permed hair, frumpy clothes, and a hard life.

I am soon off to aquacise, poor mum never had the opportunity to do things like that.

I am wearing shorts and a sleeveless top, and am reasonably trim. Never ever saw Mum in trousers.

I hope I will still be wearing jeans all my life.

Hardly ever wear any make up, Mum had good skin though, not wrinkled and I hope to emulate that.

GrannyGravy13 Tue 20-Aug-24 10:13:59

Shinamae

We have the benefit of make up and good skin care which our grandmother certainly did not have( or hair dye)
Also, they did not have the benefit of washing machines and hoovers, and other labour saving devices
I think our grandmother‘s worked so hard the last thing they thought about was how they looked..

My Grans definitely had vacuum cleaners, I also clearly remember one with a spin dryer and the other with a twin tub washing machine (along with fridges with small ice/freezer compartment)

One definitely dyed and permed her hair the other was happy to go with the flow and had beautiful steely grey curls.

(I was born late 1950’s for context)

1summer Tue 20-Aug-24 10:16:15

I think on the whole we are looking/dressing younger than previous generations. We now understand better the damage caused by smoking and the Sun. More access to a greater variety of healthy foods. Cosmetics and hair care products have improved.
Although I have read that experts are concerned about the health of younger generations due to long term use of chemicals etc in processed, junk food and pesticides used in crop spraying.
But saying that my Mum was very stylish, she was always slim, dressed beautifully and loved clothes and makeup. She was only 4ft 11 and wore stilettos/high heels all her life. Amazingly despite smoking all her life she had very few wrinkles (although the smoking caused chronic heart and lung disease).

StephNIE Tue 20-Aug-24 10:19:28

Baggs

I don't actually care how old I look. Never have. Never will.

Same here.

My mother was very glamorous. I don't aspire to it. I was more concerned with my appearance when I was young, but now revel in the anonymity of old age.

I look older now than my mother did at this age.

StephNIE Tue 20-Aug-24 10:21:01

To add, my mother had the luxury of retiring at 60. I won't be able to for another 7 years. Working full-time is tiring and ageing.

Casdon Tue 20-Aug-24 10:21:27

I’d say I look about the same age as my mum did, but she was very different to her own mum. My mum wore trousers in the sixties, and had her hair coloured, but it wasn’t ever permed that I can remember. She kept up with trends too. Even now at 95 she’s very fussy about what she will wear, nothing that she deems ‘for old people’.

Fleurpepper Tue 20-Aug-24 10:55:13

My mother was 39 when I was born, and looked always so much younger than other, much younger mum. Always slime, very classy in a simple, well cut style. And this well into her 70s.

fancythat Tue 20-Aug-24 10:58:25

Gosh yes.
They looked pretty old at 55. So did their comtemparies.
Old in looks/hairstyle[I cant say anything[, old in dress style, old in temperament.

Aveline Tue 20-Aug-24 11:01:03

I think I'm dressed pretty similarly to my mother ie for comfort rather than style. I'm happily long past trussing myself up in uncomfortable clothes or shoes. Just not worth it. I hate the feel of slimy make up on my skin. I try to keep well hydrated and as fit as possible with Aquafit classes three times a week.

Visgir1 Tue 20-Aug-24 11:16:08

With out a dout we look younger.
Our attitude is younger too, I maintain it's all depends on your outlook in life as well as your health.

I was lucky my Mum was always a lady who took care of her hair, make her skin was amazing and she looked after it, she dressed amazing too. Dad too said in his head he was only 29yrs both had a modern outlook in life.
I did all the things I wanted to do before I had my first baby at 33, then my children kept us younger in mind.
I'm 70 in October, but I don't act or feel that age. I still work, we have a great social life, very young Grandchildren they are always keeping us on our toes.

Cossy Tue 20-Aug-24 11:29:16

eazybee

The reason most of us do look better than our mothers at the same age is down to better health, nutrition, dental, eye and skin care and hair dye!

I agree, plus more natural and less aging hair styles and a big choice of clothes

Nannarose Tue 20-Aug-24 11:36:59

I have inherited fantastic skin from my mum / nan. I think I look very similar to my nan at this age, if I allow for the difference in clothes. My mum kept her very dark hair (family tradition said it was from gypsies) until her death, and until her final illness, that helped her to look very young.
I, however, went grey in my 30s, and I think that has always made people think I look 'old', but my face is still quite youthful.

M0nica Tue 20-Aug-24 11:52:10

GrannyGravy13

I was blessed with two stylish Grandparents and a glamorous Mother.

My darling Mum was so concerned about her grey showing that in the week before she went into a Hospice I took her to the hairdressers for a colour and cut, then we went shopping (I hired a wheelchair) for new slippers and knickers, stylish to the very end 💔

Likewise. I had a very stylish grandmother and very well dressed mother.

My grandmother grew up in poverty and was widowed in WW1, but she was a professional dressmaker, with both skill and an eye - and also self publicity! We have several portrait photos of her taken in her 20s - and she was a stunner! So you do not have to be well off to be well dressed.

As a child people were always commenting approvingly on my my mothes dress sense, I always felt this approval also contained the question of how come she ended up with me? with my plaits constantly coming undone, and somehow always looking out of place.

I also completely agree with eazybee The reason most of us do look better than our mothers at the same age is down to better health, nutrition, dental, eye and skin care and hair dye!

But especially health and nutrition. All of us over 80s were born before and during the war, where the nutrition of children, especially young children, was given high prioirty and there was the science to show what was needed.

For the first time, children from all families, especially the poor, were getting food rations, vitamins and minerals on an equal basis, and I am sure that this good nutrition in our childhoods is why life expectancy has risen so much and why so many of us who had this very good staart in life are living into our 90s.

MissAdventure Tue 20-Aug-24 12:16:05

My mum looked younger than me, I think.
Genetics, not clothes or hairstyle.

Labradora Tue 20-Aug-24 12:16:43

My beloved late mother was always stylish and youthful looking and I have inherited ( lucky me) her good skin and hair.
So no I don't look younger than my mother at 71 , probably about the same.
The massive difference I have noticed is between late mum'n me and my maternal grandmother who is the only grandparent I really remember.
My Grandma at my age was in a "pinny" over her long , shapeless floral dress and had plaster-pink thick wrinkled stockings ( Norah Batty-like) and black , round-toed sensible shoes. Her glasses were thick and "NHS". Her grey hair was short and cut roughly in a "bob".
We visited and loved our Grandma but at 71 she really presented as an "old lady".
Nothing odd about her. Many older ladies at that time looked the same.??
Or is it my particular background ?
And she was happy and content.

AGAA4 Tue 20-Aug-24 12:16:58

I would aspire to be more like my grandmother than my mum. She looked 20 years younger than her age at 80 and would never be seen without make up or dressed nicely.
She was full of life and had a pretty face even when old. I would like to be seen like that but hey ho.

NotSpaghetti Tue 20-Aug-24 12:33:46

My mother always looked younger than she was and my dad was referred to by people in business as "the man with the very young wife"! There was about a year between them.

She was a tailor by trade so all her clothes were altered to fit perfectly.
She stood tall and never had "granny curls" which her mother did. At 70 plus she had a hairstyle I'd be happy to copy if my hair would do it!
She did wear trousers now and again. And shorts on the beach.

She was pretty glamorous when I was young.

She died in her 70s though.
She was remembered by others for her kindness and her laugh. Her "style" was incidental.