Dilemma on whether to buy G/C birthday and Christmas presents.

I would still buy presents. At 13 teenagers are often not very communicative with adults. Doesn’t mean her feelings wouldn’t be hurt if she didn’t get a present from you.
Grandparents should always be there for their grandchildren in my opinion. I love ours to bits, don’t see them as much now they’re older but they are still so specia.

I understand your children's actions are disappointing. I would still get something small for the grandchildren though. You do see them, even if not that often. It's a shame your son can't come and pick you up for Christmas since you're only 5 minutes away. Could you take a cab that one day a year?

I would buy presents, but it is difficult when you don't see them & hear about them, to know what they would like. I can understand why you feel that it's not worth bothering as it does seem sad that your son & daughter don't see you more often as you live so close & you're housebound. I just don't see how not buying the grandchildren presents will make you feel any better or improve the situation in the long run. Could your hubby take them round with a message from you & an invite for them to pop round to see you?