Would you expect step grandchild to buy small Christmas gifts.

My grown up grandchildren are always spoiling this granny it’s good to know I’m appreciated 💕💕

I think the clue is in the age and the fact he is a young man. They think differently to women and probably don't even realise what they are or are not doing. My DH hasn't a clue about special occasions. I'm the one prompts him with regard to his children/grandchildren. My ex was dreadful with giving for occasions but could sulk for England if he didn't receive.
Just carry on with the gifts and cards, but maybe ask him to call round to collect, if he is able to rather than sending.

I would still give a gift I get pleasure giving gifts. I don't give to receive gifts from anyone.
My GC are still primary age they all make lovely cards and paint us pictures. They have advanced from paper to small canvas my walls proudly show them off.

Its never a good idea to expect anything. If he gives you a gift because he wants to thats nice, but if he gives you a gift because he thinks he has too then that's not nice. I would leave things as they are and keep giving him gifts because you wan to and not because you expect something in return.

I have six grandchildren and I have never had a Christmas or birthday card or present from any of them, but they don’t buy presents for their parents, or each other, I don’t know how that came about, but that’s the way it is
Oddly, they always bring me something back from their holidays.
I don’t mind, they’ve got better things to spend their money on I’m sure.

I would not expect anything. I spend hugely more on them and I do get a gift back. They mean the world to me and I can afford it. If poster has been his grandma since he was 2 she thinks as much of him as the others.A lot of men don't even send cards. Two of my grandchildren, now in their twenties didn't send me a card this year and I did feel hurt, but I will carry on. I just wish they would visit. I have definitely slipped in the pecking order since they work and go travelling but I was the same.

Yes of course a step grandchild of that age should be more respectful and give a present to his grandmother regardless of whether he’s a step grandson or not. Like you I have a 21 yr old gr andaughter who doesn’t give this grandmother any gifts whatsoever, it’s really so hurtful.

All my grandkids are grown and flown
Two of my grandchildren buy me presents and cards at Christmas and birthdays as they always have

Three sometimes do, mostly don’t and I ve never had a card

Two were included on their parents cards and presents and have never done anything for me as adults apart from a brief text or join in a fb post

They all get cards and presents off me

When I was a child good manners and politeness were something that my mother and grandmother taught me .
No matter how small a gift I'd received I'd have to write a letter of enthusiastic thanks.
When visiting flowers and chocolates would be presented to my relatives .

Today I have no idea if my grandchildren have received the gift for Easter ,Christmas and birthdays .

It's the same with their parents .

I seldom receive a gift myself.

If you're having doubts about gifts for your grandson and he wasted the money that you sent -perhaps it's time to reconsider your generosity .

My friends also feel that their gifts are taken for granted .

I'm finding it increasingly upsetting to choose and send gifts and am wondering about stopping this year .

My own grandchildren don’t buy birthday or Christmas presents. Too many people giving each other presents they don’t want!

I would always keep the faith even if it is something insignificant. If you been his ‘grandma” since he was 2 years old, then in my book he is your grandson.

Unconditional love.

No I would never expect anyone to buy me gifts. No matter what the circumstances.

I don't expect separate presents from my grandchildren,even though I get them quite expensive gifts in consultation with their parents, and their thank yous are now sent by text or what's app, which is fine. My own children give me gifts.

Some people stop giving grandchildren gifts when they reach adulthood but whatever you decide I think you have to treat them all the same and stop after 21st birthday for them all. I don't think it would make you feel better leaving him out, if you wish to carry on past 21 for other grandchildren.

I think I'd start to phase it out after if you think the gifts you are giving to your step grandchild aren't appreciated. Most 21+ years

We don't expect grandkids to buy us presents, step or not.

No acknowledgement,no further gifts.End of.

I have never received a present from any of my DGC unless you include beautiful handmade cards.
She wrote me one in Gaelic because she and I are both learning.
The parents give me something usually a bottle and chocs.
I give the younger ones a gift but once they are teenagers I haven't a clue what they like. So £20 note in a card or something like that.

I would be happy to keep giving the Step GS something if you want to but not if you don't.

I agree.

Rise above it and under no circumstances do as AuntieE is suggesting which IMHO is highly petulant and will create discord.

It’s simple; cut back on the amount of money you spend on him but still give him something and ignore the fact that he doesn’t give you anything.

This depends entirely on how the family as a whole regard present giving and how warm the relationship between you and your step-grandchild is.

Personally, I would stop giving this young man anything, and would casually annonce next November that you are cutting back on present-giving and will not be giving presents to those who neither thank you for a gift, or return the favour.

Who gives the school child the money, though?
Plus, they don't pay keep, if we want to be niggly.

Anyway, I think you're doing right to keep buying for the older grandchild.

It's not worth kicking up about it, for your own peace of mind.

Yes, I get all your points, just wondered what others thought.
Thanks, it helps to put things in perspective.
Fried Green Tomatoes, I dont expect anything, that's the point, but I'd be over the moon if the thought was there!
Regarding comparing a school child with a teen, said school child insists on using their own money to buy lovely little gifts, and the comparison is not a teen but in late 20s. still living at home and paying out very little for keep etc.
I know when it comes to the crunch I will probably just carry on as I have been doing, thanks all for your various opinions.

Never ‘expect’ anything then you won’t be disappointed, just pleasantly surprised if you do receive something. Unlikely but there it is.

Theres no point comparing a school age child who loves buying presents with a teen.

It's almost always mum who sorts it all out for a school child, if we're frank about it.

I'd say that gifts are just that - gifts. They're not barter or trade. Just stop giving your step-children gifts once they're grown-up. Until then, hold your counsel and console yourself that you're not whipping up bad feeling within an already delicate family balance.