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Bungle22 Wed 05-Mar-25 08:38:40

I have a friend who I usually see weekly. I took her out on her birthday, supported her through a relationship break up, she’s been supportive to me.

She went away to Australia for 3 months to stay with her son.
I obviously realise she’s busy, don’t expect weekly messages, but she’s back next week, only sent me a short text and picture in all that time and didn’t reply to the 1 message I sent.

I suppose I feel out of sight out of mind. She told me she is already planning on going away for longer next time.
I suppose I feel I need to spend more time with friends who are available to meet up.

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LavenderMcgroo Wed 05-Mar-25 08:44:45

You need to show her love before it’s too late. Keep your remaining friends close to you.

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Grandmabatty Wed 05-Mar-25 08:47:22

It can be very expensive to send and receive messages in different countries. When my best friend went abroad, I didn't expect to hear from her nor did I send her chit chat as it cost me.
I wouldn't drop her as a friend, but widen your friendship group, as you suggested

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Witzend Wed 05-Mar-25 08:52:18

Grandmabatty

It can be very expensive to send and receive messages in different countries. When my best friend went abroad, I didn't expect to hear from her nor did I send her chit chat as it cost me.
I wouldn't drop her as a friend, but widen your friendship group, as you suggested

Not if you use WhatsApp.

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theworriedwell Wed 05-Mar-25 08:56:31

I resisted whatsapp for a long time but it is really useful. Don't know why I was being stubborn.

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Lathyrus3 Wed 05-Mar-25 09:08:51

I don’t message my friends when I’m away and none of them message me if they’re away. I don’t think it occurs to us. I think we all look on travel as a complete change from ordinary life.

I too think it’s a sign that you should develop some other friendships., especially as she is already planning her next trip.

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Bungle22 Wed 05-Mar-25 09:09:32

Thanks for the replies.
She can use WhatsApp.
Next time she’ll be away for 6 months, and I doubt I’ll hear from her, but she’ll contact me to meet up as soon as she gets home. I have other friends and I’ll aim to see more of them.

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