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Sending birthday card

(17 Posts)
Pili Sat 24-May-25 10:41:50

I have been estranged from only daughter sil and precious only grandson for almost a year. My sil will be forty soon I have bought a nice card but don’t know if I should send it.

Baggs Sat 24-May-25 10:46:36

If you do, just wish him a Happy Birthday and say love from...

Toetoe Sat 24-May-25 10:52:08

Send it with love , have no expectations, why not . You have nothing to lose . I feel for you πŸ’”

NotSpaghetti Sat 24-May-25 10:53:00

...or thinking of you on your special day?

I'd probably struggle with what exactly to put.
I'd send it though.

Maybe "Happy birthday, thinking of you."

crazyH Sat 24-May-25 10:54:43

Send the card Pili - who knows -this may be the start of a reconciliation. I wish you well.

henetha Sat 24-May-25 11:10:40

Oh yes, I agree. Send it. I do hope it brings about a reconciliation. flowers

Oreo Sat 24-May-25 11:26:39

henetha

Oh yes, I agree. Send it. I do hope it brings about a reconciliation. flowers

I agree too.

Shelflife Sat 24-May-25 14:33:20

I also think you should send it . Not spaghetti' s wording is perfect -
'Happy birthday, thinking of you' is just right. I do hope you are able to reconcile with your DD and SIL, it must be so distressing. Good luck. You have nothing to loose so post that card!

Charleygirl5 Sat 24-May-25 14:38:13

Definitely, as others have said, you have nothing to lose.

Norah Sat 24-May-25 14:44:52

Yes, send it.

Elless Sat 24-May-25 14:57:31

I was in the same situation, I sent a special bottle of wine as it was a big birthday.

LOUISA1523 Sat 24-May-25 15:14:13

Send it

Sadgrandma Sat 24-May-25 18:00:52

I agree, send it and say Thinking of you.

Coconutty Sat 24-May-25 18:06:30

I would send it. I hope you can fix things.

Shelflife Sat 24-May-25 18:39:11

Go for it Pili! Keep us posted please.

Bridie22 Sat 24-May-25 18:42:47

Send it,

Steelygran Sat 24-May-25 18:46:31

I also say send it. I wonder if you've sent cards to your daughter and grandson, even though you've been estranged for almost a year. At least they know you're thinking of them and in that way you're keeping the channels of communication open.