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Does she like me?

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CROCKETT1984 Sat 05-Jul-25 18:47:13

35-year-old autistic male here.

Quite recently a very good friend of mine (57-year-old non-autistic female) told me that she had a dream in which I asked her to marry me and she accepted.

She said afterwards, "If the thought ever entered your mind, you know my response."

Would you all call this definite, irrefutable proof that she likes me in that way?

I'm just looking for opinions.

Scribbles Sat 05-Jul-25 18:59:18

We all have weird dreams from time to time. I'd guess her statement implies that the thought of marriage with you fills her with horror.
But why not ask her to clarify so that you both know where you stand? If you're good friends, the episode may give you both a laugh.

Nell82 Sat 05-Jul-25 19:18:49

On the other hand, your friend may be dropping a big hint!

Delila Sat 05-Jul-25 19:27:49

Impossible to advise really. Your friend didn’t need to tell you of her dream, but she did, following up with an ambiguous comment. It sounds as though she’s trying to find out if you are interested in her romantically

No, I don’t think this was “definite irrefutable proof” that she likes you in that way, any more than it’s proof that she doesn’t.

You both need clarification.

RosieandherMaw Sat 05-Jul-25 19:31:22

Sounds as if she has a sense of humour!

CROCKETT1984 Sat 05-Jul-25 19:38:28

Delila

Impossible to advise really. Your friend didn’t need to tell you of her dream, but she did, following up with an ambiguous comment. It sounds as though she’s trying to find out if you are interested in her romantically

No, I don’t think this was “definite irrefutable proof” that she likes you in that way, any more than it’s proof that she doesn’t.

You both need clarification.

I definitely find her attractive/

CROCKETT1984 Sat 05-Jul-25 19:39:00

RosieandherMaw

Sounds as if she has a sense of humour!

You think she couldn't have meant it? Just asking.

luluaugust Sat 05-Jul-25 19:42:27

She sounds like a good friend but there is a long way between that and getting married! Without knowing her it is difficult to say if she is trying to find out if you might be interested or just being jokey. There is quite an age gap though this needn’t necessarily matter.
Why not see if she would be interested in a few outings with you and see how things go

CROCKETT1984 Sat 05-Jul-25 19:45:48

luluaugust

She sounds like a good friend but there is a long way between that and getting married! Without knowing her it is difficult to say if she is trying to find out if you might be interested or just being jokey. There is quite an age gap though this needn’t necessarily matter.
Why not see if she would be interested in a few outings with you and see how things go

Yes, we are very close and affectionate friends. I presume that what she meant by "the thought" was a relationship and not literally marriage. In all likelihood, that was just part of the dream. And yes, she's older, but she's gorgeous.

luluaugust Sat 05-Jul-25 19:48:11

Good luck 🙂

Aldom Sat 05-Jul-25 19:49:54

If I were you I would ask your friend if she would like to go for a coffee/drink sometime. Suggest a day and say the ball is in her court and to message you if she's free. If she doesn't get back to you, you'll know the answer without causing either of you embarrassment. But, you might be pleasantly surprised. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. smile

BlueBelle Sat 05-Jul-25 20:22:49

Why have you got two threads identical

CROCKETT1984 Sat 05-Jul-25 20:26:08

BlueBelle

Why have you got two threads identical

That one is in the "Relationships" section. I didn't realise I wasn't supposed to do that.

BlueBelle Sat 05-Jul-25 20:59:32

Well it’s not that you’re not supposed to but what’s the point you ll get the same answers to the same question from the same people

Jaxjacky Sat 05-Jul-25 21:34:23

How did you rely to her telling you about the dream?

Franski Sun 06-Jul-25 06:11:39

Hello Crockett.

Whether this is just friendship or something more, it means clarity is going to be impottant for you- to have direct communication about evrrything, and not have to read between the lines.
I would say to her ' if I did propose to you, what would you say' ......?
You are already good friends, she knows you and so she is unlikely to be offended.
Good lucksmile