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hermitcrab Tue 30-Sept-25 11:28:32

morning all

suggestions on the best places to live in south of england anyone out there live in a great place .him indoors 80 me 75 we have very no shops for anything asda supermarket hopeless morrisons here not far behind buses non existant so when the car goes in for a service we are stuck 3 miles to shop one way and 5 miles the other way.the whole place seems to be turning into a wasteland .devon and cornwall seem to be favourite but where aroud these countys ?

Magenta8 Tue 30-Sept-25 11:44:55

I would love to live in Cornwall as it is beautiful and my father's family came from there but I believe that medical services are lacking and public transport is not good.

The southeast is much better served in both respects but most of it is either very expensive to buy or very urban (sometimes both). I live in an urban area quite close to the coast which is well served for supermarkets, doctors, dentists and public transport.

The downside is that the traffic is horrendous most of the day and parking is very difficult.

keepcalmandcavachon Tue 30-Sept-25 11:49:05

The whole country is full of great places hermitcrab! It very much depends on - budget, needs and interests as to where you'll be happiest.
I would (based on those things) look for a small market town with a big heart. A population of about 12000 or so seems to ensure enough facilities/ interests with a nice community 'buzz'.
I would be wary of a lone shop, pub or bus route closing down so would always filter out smaller villages based on possibly not driving in the future, good luck with your search

tanith Tue 30-Sept-25 13:52:05

Iโ€™ve just moved to a market town in Bedfordshire it has a good bus and train service. A Waitrose, Morrisons, Tesco, Marks food store too and various other well known stores. A market day twice a week and at least 2/3 farm shops and garden centres with coffee/lunch cafes. Population is about 40thousand but it feels small compared to London where I moved from. A market sounds just what you are looking for.

tanith Tue 30-Sept-25 13:52:47

A Market Town I meant.

Chocolatelovinggran Tue 30-Sept-25 14:04:02

hermitcrab, lots of good advice here.
I would add my voice to those who point out the importance of good transport links.
I live in a town with a train station, with links to nearby towns, and to London for onward travel.
The buses are excellent, and frequent. I was astonished, visiting my son, to wait thirty minutes for a bus. I am in East Kent.
Good luck with the search.

butterandjam Tue 30-Sept-25 14:29:00

You need convenient access to public transport and hospitals.

Dorset or Hampshire might be better.

karmalady Tue 30-Sept-25 14:35:40

Somerset, pick a town carefully. I am in a small market town with shops, doctors, buses, train not too far away. Lovely friendly people. We have artisan shops, bakers, greengrocers etc no betting shop. Old style vibe and feels very safe, also very lovely scenery. A calm relaxed county and plenty of groups to join if you wish.

M0nica Tue 30-Sept-25 16:52:01

hermitcrab we have just faced your problem and dealt with it. We have moved to St Neots, in Cambridgeshire, on the A1 and on the main railway line between London and Edinburgh. It is a town with everything in the town centre, doctors, dentists,opticians, podiatrists, Waitrose, Lidl, M&S Food, Iceland, Nationwide, Post Office, Watersones, Bon Marche, Fat Face, and Cine Centre. You name it and St Neots as it in the town centre.

There are a lot of retirement developments in the town centre and Churchills are about to build another. House prices are reasonable here. certainly lower than where we lived in Oxfordshire.

Allira Tue 30-Sept-25 17:23:16

Cornwall is expensive and many homes are empty much of the time as they are second homes. Truro and Bodmin, being the main towns, have supermarkets but it would be like living anywhere but with less access to the rest of the country. Penzance is even further down the peninsula.

Devon? I love Devon but so do many other retired people! It does get busy in the summer.

There are lots of lovely good-sized market towns in the country with good facilities and easier access to other parts of the UK.

Do you have any family living in any areas which might interest you?

Norfolk seems popular at the moment but I don't know that area at all.

hermitcrab Tue 30-Sept-25 18:28:38

we used to live in sudbury people were always looking for an angle we were there for 10 years and the council still had not adopted the roads on our new estate they put a bus route through and the first time the bus came up ripped itself apart with rise and fall bollards so that was the end of that .then the we had 30 teanagers making a racket in the littlies play ground and 1 yes 1 policelady was sent and she would not get out of her car.we are now down in somerset doctors is run by a private business been here 10 years still do not know doctors name or even if i have one only get the so called nurse practitioner .they do not take blood pressures properly look down their nose at handing in urine sample and continualy peddle lifestyle coaches and coming from a medical background just infuriates me.
as for family one two hours drive away they if we are very lucky come once a year but have not been for 3 years now.the other one lives in ireland so hardly ever appear and then we do all the cooking etc while they play on their phones.older sis is 78 and lives in scotland.we dont seem to go anywhere now the last holiday was 12 years ago .we seem to have a habit of moving somewhere and the shops promtly shut and the place turns into a dump .bournmouth was ok but that was 20 years ago and from what one of the mps said now the place sounds dire.hence ideas needed as i realy do not want to have to keep packing and moving.

Nanato3 Tue 30-Sept-25 18:38:51

You can't beat a market town imo .

Allira Tue 30-Sept-25 22:54:36

I'm confused.

Not being quite sure where Sudbury is, I looked it up. It looks lovely, but the description of the pier, sandy beach etc was confusing as I thought it was inland?
www.visitsuffolk.com/destination/sudbury#:~:text=The%20town%20has%20attractions%20that,indulge%20in%20fish%20and%20chips.

Allira Tue 30-Sept-25 22:56:28

That is the problem with a lot of small towns, though, the shops closing down, not encouraged by higher and higher parking charges.

Nanato3 Tue 30-Sept-25 23:22:47

There are some lovely thriving market towns if you look around . They always seem friendly too .
I like more country places, not a fan of seaside.

hermitcrab Wed 01-Oct-25 09:44:38

no sudbury does not have a pier or sandy beach not unless they moved the place to the coast after we moved . i said move maybe because starmer and his wallys have just about ruined the country very little on the market and most have taken their houses off sale , nothing has sold since the cheap stamp duty free ones were sold at the end of march 6 months and counting.someone has said the last and only chemist around here is closing so its a 20 minute journey one way in one direction or a 40 minute journey the other way both there and back.as far as medical services thats 40 minutes in one direction so we dont hold our breath here for help you are on your own mate.

luluaugust Wed 01-Oct-25 09:57:48

The housing market has always slowed down as we glide towards Christmas and the new year. I think you need to put a lot more thought into where you want to be. Would you be better nearer to your AC or is that not an option

Pilgrimandrew Wed 01-Oct-25 15:25:35

There are fabulous towns in Devon with excellent facilities - Tavistock, Dartmouth, Moretonhampstead, Teignmouth, Torbay, to name a few. Sure, it gets busy in the summer but that's really only for 6 weeks of the year. The pace of life is relaxed, so if you're unlucky enough to be diagnosed with only six months to live, it'll seem like six years!

IOMGran Wed 01-Oct-25 15:41:12

hermitcrab

no sudbury does not have a pier or sandy beach not unless they moved the place to the coast after we moved . i said move maybe because starmer and his wallys have just about ruined the country very little on the market and most have taken their houses off sale , nothing has sold since the cheap stamp duty free ones were sold at the end of march 6 months and counting.someone has said the last and only chemist around here is closing so its a 20 minute journey one way in one direction or a 40 minute journey the other way both there and back.as far as medical services thats 40 minutes in one direction so we dont hold our breath here for help you are on your own mate.

Sorry, was it actually good before July 2024? My memory must be playing up as I remember it being a revolving door of increasingly mediocre PMs and a general air of desperation.

NanaPlenty Wed 01-Oct-25 16:08:56

Ashtead in Leafy Surrey - a lovely village, plenty going on if you want it, great community and easy access to all the necessary shops and amenities as well as easy access to London /The Coast by train or road. Beautiful countryside .

Jess20 Wed 01-Oct-25 16:19:31

I'd look for good NHS services and a flat walk to a decent supermarket, probably on the edge of a large town or city with regular busses. The countryside can be very isolated.

Acciaccatura Wed 01-Oct-25 17:01:35

If you want all facilities on the doorstep, have a look at Poundbury in Dorset. It has been designed to have all you need within walking distance.

petra Wed 01-Oct-25 17:17:40

Pounbury. It always looks like Gods waiting room or somewhere they could film Stepford wives.
And your forbidden to have frosted glass in your bathroom ๐Ÿ˜‚

Allira Wed 01-Oct-25 17:20:32

petra

Pounbury. It always looks like Gods waiting room or somewhere they could film Stepford wives.
And your forbidden to have frosted glass in your bathroom ๐Ÿ˜‚

It always looks like Gods waiting room
Poundbury has got schools so families must live there! ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿซ๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿซ

SunnySusie Wed 01-Oct-25 17:26:16

Absolutely love Bury St Edmunds in Suffolk. Its a market town with a really good selection of shops. Beautiful cathedral, lovely old buildings and the wonderful Abbey Gardens, always so well maintained. The market itself is still thriving and there is a modern shopping area. It also has three theatres, a brewery and loads going on. There is a station within easy walking distance of the centre and fast road links.