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At what age do grandchildren give their grandparents presents themselves?

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Cabbie21 Sat 27-Dec-25 14:14:39

Rather than just being included in gifts bought and given by their parents?
My grandchildren are all young adults. They still get gifts from me, but none of them has started to give me a gift themselves.
Maybe when they have left home and live independently.?
Or never? Or if they have a special relationship with one grandparent in particular? I have no idea. My own grandparents had all died by the time I was 12 so it is outside my experience.

monami Thu 01-Jan-26 14:42:47

they dont, their parents add their names to your pair of slippers from the, the grandkids are busy spending their money on themselves and mates

monami Thu 01-Jan-26 14:40:59

never, they tag on to their parents gifts to you, but spend hundreds on their mates

Menopauselbitch Thu 01-Jan-26 14:33:52

AuntieE

Never would be my guess if they are all more or less grown up now,

As a child too young to handle money, I went with my mother to the shops and she looked at presents for my grandparents.
She would pick out one or two small things, and ask me, and later my younger sister, what we would like to give our grandparents, aunts and other grown-ups who gave us presents and who exchanged presents with our parents.

As schoolchildren we were given a little extra pocket money in December to use for buying Christmas presents and were firmly told that we could not come and ask for more!

Before going to the shops we made out a list each of those we had to buy presents for (including sister) and then did our Christmas shopping.

This way we learned early that giving presents is an exchange of gifts.

Nowadays a lot of children never learn this as they are included in the gifts their parents buy.

We were too, when we were babies and afterwards if the presents were to distant relatives or acquaintances rather than close relatives or friends. The gift tag would be inscribed as "from the X family" or " from Dr. and Mrs.X and their daughters."

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Redlisa Thu 01-Jan-26 14:18:59

Mine already do, even the 2 still living at home. The 17 yr old gave me a voucher to walk my dog ten times and my 6 yr old gave me a picture she had made. The older ones, 19-25 always buy me something and I cherish the thought that goes into every gift.

SueEH Thu 01-Jan-26 14:03:19

I don’t remember ever giving my grandparents separate gifts to the “family gift” bought by my parents. Likewise. my adult children haven’t given individual presents to their grandparents (the final one died before Christmas). I’d just always buy something and put “from all of us” on the label.

Imarocker Sun 28-Dec-25 08:43:22

I don’t know. I’m still waiting.

Cadenza123 Sun 28-Dec-25 06:42:26

When they started working. 18 - 22.

nanna8 Sun 28-Dec-25 05:44:45

Cards but no gifts from any of them. Most cards are from the youngest aged 7. Their ages range up to 32 ( yes, we all started pretty young ! )They do thank me for gifts, though.

Grammaretto Sun 28-Dec-25 04:58:11

My younger grandchildren make me cards and decorations. I don't expect or want any gifts from them.

Each family give me a present and all the DGC thank me for their gifts.

Allsorts Sun 28-Dec-25 03:53:48

All my grand children buy me presents somI feel very lucky.

NotSpaghetti Sun 28-Dec-25 02:03:31

I should say, my lovely mother-in-law died just before Christmas so I expect the gifts from my children to her (with the exception of the cake) would have gone over that week.
They all bought treats last year.... a garden and a book voucher, "smellies", potted spring bulbs and other things.

NotSpaghetti Sun 28-Dec-25 01:58:55

My grandparents had all died by the time I was about 5 or 6 so I never did this.
I know I made cards for my grandmother though.

My own 5 children bought or made small gifts for their grandmother (once she was widowed I think) when she would have stayed with us regularly for Christmas (which didn'thappen a lot before).
At that point they would have been maybe between ten and twenty something.

My own grandsons have been baking biscuits and making marzipan fruits for us this year and one made a Christmas card.
One of the granddaughters made a big paper star to go in our window.
No bought gifts (actually paid for by our own grandchildren) this year but I know one chose my husband's socks and another my panforte!

My mother-in-law was also the recipient of marzipan fruits, shortbread and chocolates from my grandchildren (her great-grandchildren) and a home made and iced Christmas cake from my daughter - these arrived before Christmas.

She had bought all the great grandchildren book tokens and all her grandchildren and partners wines.

Some families do like to give things. Not everyone does it within the family but we love them anyway... and one does nothing for ages and then great big things occasionally!

Every family is different. I don't think we should expect them to be the same.

My dad had a shop and all his "regular" customers had a small gift at Christmas. He loved giving things/ tea and buscuits/ his time to people. It was a privilege to be in the shop in the run up to Christmas.

FlexibleFriend Sun 28-Dec-25 00:56:49

My 6 year old GS makes me a fridge magnet every year with his own unique design.

Carenza123 Sat 27-Dec-25 22:49:31

For the first time this Christmas my two granddaughters bought me a gift of a jumper from M&S and a large packet of toffee popcorn! I think since they have been earning their on monies, they decided to club together and buy me these presents which were totally unexpected. In previous years we have said we will not buy presents for the adults.. I am thrilled that they wished to give me something because they wanted to.

Calendargirl Sat 27-Dec-25 18:09:45

Should add that when my own DS had a paper round, he bought his gran some little parcels suitable for her tiny Xmas tree.

They were from Woolworths, he never told us what he was doing.

Mum loved them, I was chuffed at his thoughtfulness.

Flippin2 Sat 27-Dec-25 18:09:06

It's better to give than receive, doesn't worry me about presents,I'd rather they spent money on things they need

Calendargirl Sat 27-Dec-25 18:06:26

I have 5 GC, ages ranging from 23 to 17.

3 of them live overseas.

Never received a gift from any of them personally.

Do I think they should?

Well, I suppose our own 2 children bought presents for their grandma, my mum, independently when they were earning their own money, but no, I don’t suppose any of mine ever will.

I give all of them money for their gifts.

Mollygo Sat 27-Dec-25 16:57:01

We’ve received presents from DGC for a few years now. Until this year, they chose /bought gifts but the money was provided by parents, but this year, DGS proudly announced that he had earned the money for our presents.

Crossstitchfan Sat 27-Dec-25 16:51:39

My ‘present’ from my 8 month old great-grandson was a homemade card with a print of his little foot on it, helped by his Mum, obviously. I think it’s safe to say he will be brought up to give gifts himself when he is old enough.
As an aside, when my granddaughter held him up for me to give him a Christmas kiss, he rested his little hand against my cheek and smiled at me. No amount of money could buy a gift from him that meant as much.

Kate1949 Sat 27-Dec-25 16:38:45

We only have one grandchild, our lovely granddaughter. She is in her 20s. This year she bought us a bottle of wine and a gift voucher.

twiglet77 Sat 27-Dec-25 16:32:21

*given

twiglet77 Sat 27-Dec-25 16:32:03

My eldest DGC is 9 and this is the first year he didn’t buy me something at his his school’s little gift fair, previously he’s give me a bauble, a fridge magnet, just a token gift that he chose himself. He did make me a card and post it himself though, which is lovely.

This year I said please no presents between adults, but I was a little disappointed that my other DD’s younger boys, aged 3 and 4, weren’t helped to even make a card. I got them gifts from the Amazon wishlist circulated by DD!

tanith Sat 27-Dec-25 16:02:16

My grownup Grandchildren started buying me small presents when they had their own children and I bought for the little ones. I don’t buy presents once they are earning birthday or Christmas.

BlueBelle Sat 27-Dec-25 15:19:26

All mine are adults. Five out of seven buy me lovely gifts The other two don’t (since their mum and dad stopped doing it for them or with them) in fairness they live overseas and don’t really know me well as the others do, but a thank you and perhaps a card from Moonpig would be lovely but it won’t start now, they ve never done it although I treat them the same as the others.
But as the song goes 5 out of 7 is not bad ( well that’s not quite the words but close enough)

LOUISA1523 Sat 27-Dec-25 15:17:32

My DD32 buys my mum a pressie ....my 2 DS send flowers thru post