Presents you won't use.

I’m with M0nica, we do the same. We don’t expect everything on our lists, we include items of very different values, and it means we know that what we get for each other are presents we each really want, often very random things nobody would think of otherwise.

I'd never issue a wish list. It would feel greedy and would take away the surprise and pleasure of opening a well intentioned present from someone who cared enough to give me something.

Like me, my AC ‘s both acknowledge that here are a number of items that just aren’t suitable as gifts, toiletry gift sets, jewellery being two for instance. These are never purchased as presents for anyone in the family.

No, nothing I wasn't very happy to receive. But we usually buy and receive presents from wish lists.

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Aveline My Nan was the same, we found so many unopened and unused gifts in cupboards but we think she was saving them for best as she had such a poor upbringing.It was sad to see that she hadn’t felt able to use them up.

In the past, my DD has bought me expensive hair and make-up products that I never use because I use the cheap ones and 'save' hers for best.
This year 'I've found this nice mid-price one, so if you like it, you can buy it yourself when this is finished without feeling extravagant'!!!

A friend and I agreed no gifts then she gave me one. Eek!

Far fewer unwanted gifts in our house, since we agreed with immediate family to do a draw- each buys a present for 1 other- often asking what they would like. Among friends, we agreed no presents. Made it easier for everyone- these days if we need or want something, we usually just buy it!

I was given a set of three disgusting candles with chrome animals on them all packaged in a beautiful box. I sold them on Vinted.

Martin Lewis covered this off several years ago. I won’t add the link to his video, but it is very easy to find.
Food for thought and very liberating.

My very loveliest best friend always hand makes her gifts to me.

I have lavender bag hangers, feltmade bags, a pin cushion toadstool, embroidered scarves, knitted mitts, a rag dolly, etc etc.
They are all at the top of my wardrobe and will never be used.
I will never get rid of them but it’s such a waste of her time.

I was given a bottle of car de-icer wrapped in two tea towels. Practical but it made us laugh as everyone knows I dislike housy gifts. My ex once bought me an iron . It’s probably why he’s my ex!

Already on the local FB page, I have seen stuff advertised that is obviously unwanted Christmas gifts.

Duplicated toys, games, toiletries, clothing….

Pointless giving.

That reminds me of a story about my Dad not really a present but it always makes me smile
Dad in his late 80 s phad a very favourite cardy which he wore nearly everyday except when he was going out or anyone was coming anyway it was starting to look a bit tatty after years of wearing it and I decided to buy him another one. I found an absolutely identical card and bought it, gave it to him. He said how happy he was. He wore it a couple of times and then it got folded up put in the drawer and the old one got put on his back. 🤣

Aveline My Nan was the same, we found so many unopened and unused gifts in cupboards but we think she was saving them for best as she had such a poor upbringing.It was sad to see that she hadn’t felt able to use them up.

My late MiL was very dear to us and we put a lot of thought into the gifts we gave her. Sadly, after she'd died and we were clearing her house we found most of them in a cupboard. Wed obviously not chosen as well as we'd thought.

Cabbie I think it may be practical but very sad that someone who has perhaps taken time to think what to buy, gone to the trouble and expense to buy it, wrapped it, and given it in good faith, should have it dumped the next day. I d be very upset if I thought that’s what happened to presents I give people, as I put a lot of thought into trying to find something they would like.
I think it’s ok if something is given to charity or regifted in time but to talk in such a flippant way about going to the charity shop the next day is hurtful and uncaring.

I organised our womens group last year to bring in any make up or cleaning things like bath salts that had not been opened but that they would not use. So I no longer have a bath, and it did seem somewhat thoughtless when someone gave me bath salts etc. Then we made up a little hamper of all these unused and unwanted but good things and had a little raffle. The winner was pleased with her goodies and our charity gained a little too, and nothing wasted. I suggested it again before christmas and at our first meeting expect to do something similar.

I buy throughout the year when I see something at a good price which can be gifted to the person I had in mind when buying. I keep them in a box on top of the wardrobe so the they're out of sight.

I have received some very ordinary gifts over the last few years which end up in this box and will be regifted.

I get miffed about the lack of thought which goes into these gifts, e.g I am allergic to most skin care products and yet I receive highly perfumed creams and lotions which are a definite trigger.

I don't like waste so if someone else gets some joy out of an unwanted gift I have received I don't see the problem.

Cont’d… visits you, they might notice it’s missing!

I think it is a bit sad if you give gifts away because you don’t need/like them. Better than throwing them in the bin though.
My tip if you are donating them to a charity shop is to take them to one in another town if you can. That way, the person who gave you the gift isn’t going to see it laid out in a local shop. That said, if you do that , and the donor visi

Charity shop in the new year.

I don’t get why it is awful.
I received a scarf I don’t need and I don’t like the colour. Why not let someone else benefit?

Well they ll be very welcome when you have a power cut

How awful that people take their presents to the charity shop or in a pile to give to others that’s awful

Surely a new and exciting hobby beckons, Dylis?

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Dylis

DH and I have been given knitted beanies with powerful lights in the centre. We looked like a pair of Daleks when we tried them on!

Why???
Are you both avid potholers??

No! We live in a brightly lit town centre. I have no idea what the thought process was behind the beanies.