Grandaughter does not want to visit me to her Grandfather .

Nicolenet

Ignore her, no treats or presents, no hugs or smiles. She isn't worth bothering. Happy New Year x

Someone’s been sucking the lemons 😡

Nicolenet
She's 10!..

Suzieque66,
I have the same with my Granddaughter, she's 15 and had decided to be a Grandson now but doesn't talk to many people anymore. I can't remember the last time she came to visit and actually spoke to me.
All I do is send her a text most weeks telling her what I've been up to, asking about her week etc... and always add that I love her and am always here for her.
I do refer to her as a boy when I text and use her chosen male name.
I hope you get to see your Granddaughter soon, she's probably to young to have a mobile phone but does she speak to you on the phone? x

my son who is now 40 never liked his gran (my mum) even as a baby, he has only recently started to help her with certain things because i can't, i asked him and his reply was i don't know, there is just something about her, he never stayed overnight the same as the other grandchildren, but would be more than happy to stay with my sister. he is an only child and never had a problem being away from me.

Gosh that’s very HARSH!

Buy her presents as usual but let it be known that you'll keep them at your house until she feels able to collect them. Maybe send a photo of the wrapped gift(s) to tantalise!

Nicolenet

Ignore her, no treats or presents, no hugs or smiles. She isn't worth bothering. Happy New Year x

Harsh words

I need to ask why…as I’m sure you do. It might be more to do with her home situation than anything to do with you. And just a thought….could you visit her?

Ignore her, no treats or presents, no hugs or smiles. She isn't worth bothering. Happy New Year x

It’s ok I’ve got four who never visit. It’s just part of them growing up but in my case just rude.

More context is needed. Has anything changed in your household. Have either of you become ill for example or did she get told off on the last visit? You need to give more background information before anyone can offer advice.

She comes with her Mum, not on her own.

Does the title mean she does not wish to visit you and grandfather?
What is the scenario.
10 is quite young to be visiting on her own ?
Doesn't she usually come with her parents?
Or has this changed recently?
What about if you visit her house?
Any preference between you and GF ?

What have her parents said about this? Can they give any reason?

Sound advice Monica. Suzie, I understand how distressing this must be for you, but there is nothing you can do other than watch and wait. Keep a sound relationship with her parent/s and don't let your GD know how upset you are. She has ADHD,this may well have complicated the situation but try not to think this is the reason.
Hopefully your GD will begin to want you back soon. In the meantime time sit tight .

I am afraid that there is nothing you can do, other than sit tight, do nothing to aggravate the situation until she comess out of this phase.