I think the first thing is to decide what matters . That is very indivual and what annoys or upsets one person, has no effect on another. So as far as I am concerned so long as I am clean and my clothes and the bed is , the kitchen and bathroom kept cleaned , anything else can wait until or if I can be bothered to use my precious energy on that instead of something more worthwhile to me, such as the garden or a good book or writing on here!
So I have always been quite an organiser and have over the years worked out different ways to get jobs that I either cant do myself or hate doing done. There is quite a surge in a repair cafe trend where you can take things to be repaired rather than thrown away. In the same way I have talked to friends and then another time to the womens group I go to, with the idea of swapping skills .So the way we did that was to offer our skills and we had a system where you earned points, which depended on the difficulty or length of time taken to do something. So you did not have to just match up with one other person, so if you happened to be a good seamstress or knitter you could make something for someone who supplies you with the materials. Another area that works well is if you are known to be a good cook, or cake maker. Then you could "spend" your points with someone who is a cleaning buff, so you are only allowing one person who knows what they are doing to come and sort it out for you.
You could have a little notebook and jot down things that you cant really manage yourself easily , so that when that lovely tall grandaugter calls you can ask her to have a go at the ceiling cobwebs, which will be no effort for her at all and can be sorted out in minutes. I find that it is annoying when a relative visits and genuinly asks if there is something you want doing , and my mind immediately goes blank and I say no there is nothing, only to find 10 minutes after they have left that I cant get the lid off the beetroot!
Resolve to get out and about as much as you can while you can, and just dont look at the cobwebs or jobs M! Whilst I do make an effort to keep things going, I have had to accept that there is no way my back will allow me to do things as I did in the past, but any good weather day at this time of year, I would rather have a bit of a walk or a drive to my beloved Swaledale. They gladden my heart, cheer me up and I am more likely to do a bit of tidying up when the weather is not so good another day. You never see wonderful cobweb cleaner on a grave stone!! Mine is more likely to say " I was going to do it tomorrow"