Looking after grandchildren

Maybe he should look at a nursery where they keep the babies to their home routines. Do they pay you to look after their children, if not they have minimal say as long as you are keeping them safe. If they do pay you then I suppose you have an obligation to do as they ask. Could it be a little jealousy that you have your other grandchildren at the same time even though their mother is there too which must be a help to you. I admire you anyway because when my grandchildren were young as was working but when I did look after them two at a time as a blinking struggle at my house, much easier at theirs.

Missiseff

I'm team DS. If they've been at work all day & they have to come home and try and settle a child that hasn't had it's usual nap time, after they've worked hard on sleep patterns, I can totally understand why they'd be peed off.

Well then they should find and pay for childcare that suits them. It is not reasonable to expect Grandmother to spend all day on her own with a baby and dictate her routine while providibg them with free childcare! Allowing that she is doing ghis on top of a job and otger commitments ghey really do need to think aboutcwhich side their bread is buttered!

Does he think you are running a nursery? Hé should be more than grateful for all the effort you are putting in!

Summerskies

Yes that could be something perhaps they don't like the fact aunty and cousins are in the house when they are not there I will ask DS this question

You're doing DS a favour caring for his child, perhaps ensure DS understands being alone with a young child is tiring, your DD is helpful.

I think you are doing too much.

Missiseff

I'm team DS. If they've been at work all day & they have to come home and try and settle a child that hasn't had it's usual nap time, after they've worked hard on sleep patterns, I can totally understand why they'd be peed off.

If they aren't happy with the situation it is within their power to change the childcare arrangements and pay someone to do it.

He should be over the moon grateful that he has a grandparent who is willing and able to look after his offspring for him.

As others have said if he doesn’t like the arrangement he can always cough up and put him in a nursery or send him to a childminder. I can’t see either of those options keeping other children quiet so that his son will be able to take naps.
He doesn’t know when he’s onto a good thing. Does he pay you the going rate for childcare? Does he pay you at all?