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Flaxseed Wed 11-Feb-26 16:49:20

Fallingstar - There’s so much truth in those old sayings smile

Flaxseed Wed 11-Feb-26 16:45:31

His bloods have come back normal!
They are still going to cover him with antibiotics though. Hoping they can come home soon. Although I obviously won’t stop worrying until he’s better.
I swear I worry more about the grandchildren than I did about my own children (internet obviously doesn’t help!)
And then of course I will worry until the baby is here and everyone is well.
I guess worrying comes with the grandparenting role
confused
Thank you all for the hand hold

Esmay Wed 11-Feb-26 15:39:57

I think that all mothers and therefore grandmothers go through scares with their children /grandchikdren -one minute they are fine and the next you are running to A and E in a blind panic.
My mother was looking after my daughter and she developed a rash -it was a heat rash from over heating her .
My mother was hysterical over it .

Your grandson could easily have a virus or appendicitis.
Viruses are strange and present in different
ways sometimes coming on with tiredness .
Appendicitis is less seen these days .
It's easy for me to say don't worry!
But wait for a proper diagnosis .
Sending you a big hug .

Fallingstar Wed 11-Feb-26 15:09:02

My old mum used to say ‘trouble likes company’. Let’s hope that you are due a break after all this and you can all settle down and relax in preparation for the new baby which will bring its own worries but it’s own blessings as well.
❤️

Flaxseed Wed 11-Feb-26 15:00:19

CrazyH I do hope so.
I am playing all sorts of scenarios over in my head confused

crazyH Wed 11-Feb-26 14:54:49

Oh Flaxseed you have a lot going on. They say, it never rains but pours . I too am an over thinker and I too ‘catastrophize’. I do understand.
Your DGS is being checked over. It’s probably just a virus.
Look after yourself. Be strong flowers

LOUISA1523 Wed 11-Feb-26 14:38:54

Hope he's ok

Flaxseed Wed 11-Feb-26 14:05:48

Thank you everyone.
He has swollen glands and is spiking a temperature again. They are doing bloods now and want to rule out appendicitis
It certainly does all happen at once. DD is under the cardiologist and I am currently under urology so it is A LOT at the moment.
We are all so tired as haven’t slept worrying about everything!

keepingquiet Wed 11-Feb-26 13:02:42

It could be a grumbling appendix. Not fun, but at least he will have intervention and soon be on the mend.

You do have a lot of your plate but I have a saying, 'Never trouble trouble 'till trouble troubles you.'

He is being looked after, as will your DD be as she gets further in her pregnancy.

Keep your feet on the ground and focus on getting through this storm without losing your footing.

Worrying is like stting in a rocking chair- it gives you something to do but you don't go anywhere!

Trust the medical staff, and just be there for your family. They need you to be strong and stready, not a crumbling wreck.

All will be well.

Maremia Wed 11-Feb-26 13:00:52

It's that time of year. Cold bugs thrive in our cosy homes. Nurseries and schools are 'germ factories'. The wee lad has been checked over, and nothing untoward has emerged. Just hang on in there. Keep looking after yourself. I know, folk always say that.

MG55 Wed 11-Feb-26 12:46:10

Flaxseed, holding your hand here and sending virtual hugs.
It looks like you have a lot going on at the moment. Everything comes together at the same time doesn’t it? 💐
You will be worried about your daughter and the imminent birth. A great joy but always a worry until the baby arrives safely. Hopefully, your support with the children etc will help her to rest more.
Your grandson might be feeling unsettled with everything that is happening but he is also at the age where he will be picking up all kinds of infections at school.
Hopefully, he will feel better soon.
There is not much you can do about your son in-laws situation re the weather but hope that he gets back on track soon.
Deep breaths, one day at a time and enjoy the new baby 💕

Septimia Wed 11-Feb-26 12:44:45

Of course you'll be worried about both your DD and DGS but it seems to me that all sensible action has been taken. There's not much more that anyone could do except hope that the medics get to the source of the problem.

I hope they do and that your DGS is better soon.

Fallingstar Wed 11-Feb-26 12:41:35

You have your hands full right now so no wonder you are getting anxious. My GS who is 3 had a spiking temp at night but fine during the day for over a week. They took him to docs and had tests done but nothing showed up. I think that at this time of year children catch all sorts of viruses, is a faff but am sure your GC will be ok, good job they are checking him thoroughly though. Always wise.
I do hope that in the midst of all this upheaval and turmoil you are thinking of your own well-being, be kind to yourself, take time out when you can and try to unwind in whatever way works for you.
Sending hugs 🤗

Flaxseed Wed 11-Feb-26 12:39:35

We have considered a school issue due to the ‘tummy ache’ issue, although he denies any issues.
However, that wouldn’t cause a high fever and paleness

Flaxseed Wed 11-Feb-26 12:33:03

Meant to say she took him to the Drs this morning. They are waiting to be triaged in A&E now

nanna8 Wed 11-Feb-26 12:32:41

If nothing is showing up I wouldn’t worry too much. Might have schoolitis., perhaps some kid is bullying him.

Flaxseed Wed 11-Feb-26 12:25:40

My daughter and her family are currently staying with us whilst they have stuff done on the house.
Last Wednesday DGS (8) got sent home from school with a headache, fever and he looked pale.
DD kept him off on Thursday but he was fine and went back to school on Friday.
He was ok over the weekend just spiking a temperature now and again which calpol kept under control.
Went to school Monday but came home looking pale, said he had a headache and had a mild fever.
Still kicking a ball about and annoying his younger brother wink
School again yesterday (with calpol) but last night spiked high again, felt cold. Had headache and tummy ache. Slept well and woke up with no temperature, but crying of tummy ache.
DD took him to Dr’s who was thorough - checked ears, throat, urine and blood glucose. All fine so due to no apparent cause of fever for one week she has sent them to A&E for tests.
As you can imagine, I am beside myself. DD is 31 weeks pregnant and having regular checks due to preeclampsia twice.
I am at home with DGS2 (almost 4yrs)
I feel sick, can't concentrate on anything and catastrophizing.
DD’s partner is self employed and has lost lots of days work due to rain so we have told him to stay put at the moment as they desperately need the money.
Please hold my hand