Please help! (grandchild being locked in bedroom)

If school heard this I’d expect it to be seen as a safeguarding issue. Social workers often check no locks outside bedroom doors. Fire risk, very inappropriate behaviour management techniques, which rarely stand alone

There are reasons why modern houses gave locks on interior doors.
As Oreo described, to keep children out of a room
A friend's daughter has an autistic very active child and has to lock doors to keep him out of some rooms and safe.

Another reason, after an attempted break in, we put bolt locks on three of our downstairs rooms.
The Poster will have to check and see if there is a lock on the child's bedroom door.

Well all my doors have locks, it’s just the way the original doors were fitted.
However I’m sure the child just meant she was sent to her bedroom. I very much doubt that anyone turned a key.

No sign of OP…

Fallingstar

Our nearly four year old GS tells us that the nursery staff attack them with swords and that the neighbour kidnapped him in the night and then made him eat poo.
It could be silly talk but should be taken seriously by the OP until she can determine what is actually the truth of the matter.

Our son came home from Primary One and told us that, if you misbehaved, your name went in the naughty book, and if it was in three times, you were sent to the headmistress and she ‘punched you in the face’!
Closer questioning revealed that his teacher had actually said they would be sent to the headmistrress for ‘punchment’.
We explained that the word was actually ‘punishment’.

We have a lock & key on our spare bedroom door from when it’s was a study.
It will now be a bedroom for our grandson. I certainly wouldn’t be locking him in.
We have had a Juliet window fitted in case of fire. Just wondering if he’s too young to learn how to use it in case of a fire? He’s quite sensible.

Jaxjacky

No sign of OP…

Perhaps her grandchildren locked her in a bedroom ...

🙂 Allira

Allira 🙈

Approach the parents

Then Call the Police and Social services

WHY is everyone talking about locks this poster is talking about her grandchild being locked in the bathroom and in the bedroom far more serious than talking about locks

Sorry but it really has to be said this is a series issue

Why do I get the feeling that he's partner had a lot to do with that decision that he made not to want to see you anymore

We are talking about locks as we wait to find out if there are actual locks on that child's door.

It could that there are no locks. We don't yet know.

Carmen54

Why do I get the feeling that he's partner had a lot to do with that decision that he made not to want to see you anymore

Afyer reading your post a few times, I just began to understand it. Either my mind is very damaged or I need some wine, too.

Ayfer Afyer...After !

Probably best to speak to the adults before jumping to conclusions based on the 4 year old’s word alone.

You say the mother “isn’t the most responsible parent”, but your son chose her and is with her so she is a reflection of him. 3 children aren’t a mistake or accident. Responsible people don’t make multiple humans with allegedly irresponsible partners.

Be very careful at taking what a 4-year old says. Not to say they are lying - but their perception of what happens may have little to do with what actually does.

One of g.daughters (now grown up), but as a toddler could sulk for Britain. One day, Dad was looking after her and she went into one of these sulks, stretched across the top of the stairs. When Dad try to pick her up to take her somewhere safer, she wriggled away from him, hit out at him, and then fell down two or three of the stairs before he managed to grab her to safety. However, at the time, she was wearing few clothes and got a carpet burn from stair carpet on her back.

Couple of days later this was noticed at school when she was getting ready for PE, being questioned by Teacher as to how it came about - she replied 'My Daddy did it to me'!!!1

Yes this brought in Child Protection - totally without cause.

As has been said on here. Not many bedrooms have locks on them, and bathroom doors do not lock from the outside (although it is a good idea where there are children to have locks than can be opened from outside). Probably told to go their rooms until they have calmed down, and in their mind they are 'locked in'.

I also recall something I read once where a child answered the door (I believe it was a police officer knocking) and announced, "Daddy's dead in bed and Mommy is in the kitchen cutting off heads with a sharp knife".

The parents were not, in fact, serial killers or anything of the sort

Translation: Daddy was having a snooze ("dead to the world"), and Mommy was in the kitchen cleaning some fish that they were going to be eating, which involved removing the heads as part of the process.

If you feel you must discuss how your son and his wife are bringing up their children with them, be very careful how you go about it.

I would advise you to start by asking your son whether the child is making this up, as it sounds highly unlikely in this day and age that parents are locking their children in.

I assume you did not use this method of punishment, yourself, but perhaps your daughter-in-law was locked in as a child, and regards it as normal.

A bathroom sounds a rather dangerous place to lock a small child into to me.

Another way of tackling this could be to find out whether it actually is illegal to lock children into rooms in the house. If it is, then you should point this out, once you and your son have established whether the four year old is "telling stories" or the truth.

A four year old might well be making this up, or saying "locked in" when she means "sent to my room until Mummy says I can come out", which is surely no worse than standing a naughty child in the corner.

At her age, I told mumy that Lyla, our beloved mother's help had shut me into the hen-run. So she had, but she did not know I had followed her into it!