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Why do men HAVE to ‘manspread’?

(35 Posts)
Astitchintime Sat 23-May-26 12:37:45

This isn’t all men by the way, but why do the majority have to sit with their knees so far apart? I was on holiday recently and boarded a tram. Having mobility issues I was keen to sit down and spotted a chap sitting right in the middle of a double seat. I politely asked him to ‘budge up please’ which he did, but very reluctantly and not without tutting and rolling his eyes! He then proceeded to keep pushing his legs wider to deliberately take up as much space as he could making the journey extremely uncomfortable! He wouldn’t even moved his small rucksack off the seat and on to his knee! Bloody ignorant in my opinion!

SpinDriftCoastal Sat 23-May-26 18:29:45

Does anyone remember Les Dawson's take on Ada Shufflebotham in Cissie & Ada? She used to sit like that.

Magenta8 Sat 23-May-26 18:41:06

I remember Ada, she wore knee length flesh pink knickers that were elasticated at the knee and she seemed to like to flaunt them by sitting with her legs spread.

petra Sat 23-May-26 18:43:35

SpinDriftCoastal

Some do, some don't. Does it have anything to do with upbringing? Or, is it down to character? Would be an interesting study.

Am I the only one who remembers Terry Wogan manspreading. And he was wearing very pale trousers.
Terry was educated by the Jesuits.

Fallingstar Sat 23-May-26 19:33:09

I remember trying to sit at a table for two in a restaurant but a man sitting in the seat backing mine had pushed it right back so that he could spread his legs and I couldn’t pull my seat out so I politely asked him if he could move forwards, which he did, a few meagre centimetres, so we had to dine elsewhere, that table being the only one on offer, but not before I told members of staff why we were leaving and warning them that they might have to negotiate with the uncooperative man if another couple came in. And just for the record was plenty of space for even the biggest diner to sit comfortably. That was a few moons ago I doubt I would be so quick to walk away now.

lemsip Sat 23-May-26 22:06:30

it's all to do with their appendage tightness of trousers I think

ClicketyClick Sun 24-May-26 18:44:32

It's even more annoying when they incessantly shake their legs up and down.

Astitchintime Sun 24-May-26 21:16:17

lemsip

it's all to do with their appendage tightness of trousers I think

Nothing personal lemsip………but that sounds like a load of b******s to me! 🤷‍♀️😂

Oreo Sun 24-May-26 21:31:14

Overweight men do this more than others in my experience.
Confident/ arrogant overweight men do it even more frequently.
My DP never does it and neither did my exDH.

REKA Sun 24-May-26 21:32:14

I've wondered, not often, how it must feel to sit down with that 'stuff' inbetween one's legs. I imagine it's possibly more comfortable to spread out.

Not that I'm in favour of it, it's awful to witness, but maybe it's just more comfortable.