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Confidence to Travel alone

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Carmen54 Thu 10-Sept-26 19:21:23

Hi everyone. as everyone here is my age or around my age and possibly a lot of people in my position where six years ago I lost my husband and I felt as if it was the end of the world

I felt lost I made stupid mistakes the good news is I've come through it 🙏

I really would like to go away for a break for a few days .. I've been looking on line and I quiet like Devon but then when I look at the hotels I get this horrible feeling in my stomach it's a kind of fear of being alone it's like in my head I feel like I am a little girl that needs someone to take care of

I'm scared to take the chance to go away on my own in case when I get there I don't like it

Has anybody experienced this at all

Rocketstop2 Thu 10-Sept-26 19:29:38

Hi, I haven't experienced it through loss but I have had to go away on my own at times and go to events etc alone.
The only advice I would give is just book yourself one night away, somewhere not far from where you live, perhaps the nearest coast, or place of interest. That way you can test out how you feel about being away on your own.Once you have done it, you do feel rather proud of yourself.Lots of people in the same boat as well.
I think you just need to sort of do bite sized trips before you go for the few days in Devon. Good Luck, you can do it !

Patsy70 Thu 10-Sept-26 20:16:30

My sister lives in Sidbury, a village only a few miles from Sidmouth. She lives alone now and no longer drives, and also has mobility issues. She’s booked herself into the Riviera Hotel, a room with a sea view. Sidmouth has lots to offer.

NotSpaghetti Thu 10-Sept-26 20:22:52

I travelled for my work alone (obviously younger then) and packed a good book.
The first time was odd.
It will get easier as you do it.

My lovely friend booked on a tiny tour for her first trip alone - I think it was 3 days.
She said there was always someone to have dinner with which was what worried her.

Carmen54 Thu 10-Sept-26 20:25:59

That is such a good idea.. It makes it feel alot less heavier Thank you

Carmen54 Thu 10-Sept-26 20:32:45

Thank you all for your kind words it has made a difference I think I will definitely follow rocketstop's advice that made so much sense

everybody has made me feel braver and for that I think