Hi ... only joined a few weeks ago but everyone seems so helpful and supportive - I am hoping someone will be able to offer advice to my situation please?
Basically .. hubby and i moved from Wales to SW of England nearly 3 years ago. It was something we had wanted to do for years. The decision to move when we did was after my elderly, widowed father passed away, our sons had both moved into their own houses and after I had counselling for chronic generalised anxiety disorder and depression - ie: at the time it felt like a new start.
We absolutely love it where we live and have found a lovely house and have good jobs - but I miss our sons, new grandson and our future grand baby.
My youngest son and gf had baby a few weeks ago. We’ve seen him twice and I cannot stop looking at his photos, I love him so much already. My dil is an only child and is very close to her parents - they have always spent more time with her parents than us, even when we lived in Wales and I know they will never move away from them.
My eldest son and gf are expecting their first child at xmas and are considering moving to be near us. DIL (who sadly has no parents) would be with us now but our son is sensibly more hesitant re: jobs etc
We do not want to move back but I am finding it hard to imagine not being part of my grandchildren’s lives ... both from seeing them grow up and helping practically with childcare.
Hubby is a home bird and only wants to visit every other month and will only stop one night then. (We both work ft and only have weekends off anyway). Hubby wants family to come to us but they all work and it’s a 3 hour trip each way - I feel it’s unfair to expect that from then when it was us that moved away
I don’t think there is an answer to my dilemma .. we don’t want to move but don’t want to miss seeing grandchildren growing up. I feel so guilty already for not being there and I am actually feeling really low again and don’t want to sink back into depression.
Hope that all makes sense, I’ve babbled on a bit there ... just wondered if anyone has been thro similar or can offer some advise please?
Thank you so much in advance xx
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