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Grandchildren getting older

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Larman50 Sun 16-Aug-26 18:06:33

Grandchildren now getting older and no longer need the same amount of looking after . Wondering how to spend time with them as family always so busy with work etc

Gran22boys Sun 16-Aug-26 18:22:51

I found the same. It’s a difficult time but fortunately communication is so much easier these days. Show an interest in whatever they enjoy and message or chat about that.
Also if you can, invite them for a meal at your house or in a restaurant. Young people usually enjoy their food.
And don’t be afraid to say you miss them.
I can remember being that young person and having no clue how my parents and grandparents missed me as I headed off to do my own thing so it’s best to speak out gently without appearing needy. They will always love you.

fancythat Sun 16-Aug-26 18:23:20

Ferrying them around may prove useful.

Lathyrus3 Sun 16-Aug-26 18:31:50

Lifts and food. Especially eating out. 😬

If you can latch into an interest you can share that’s good too. But probably the days of wanting to just be with Granny are over.

Grandyma Sun 16-Aug-26 18:37:37

I’m in a similar situation with my 2 teenage grandsons. We keep in touch mainly through WhatsApp and occasional family get togethers. It’s bitter sweet because I miss day to day contact we had when they were younger but I am loving seeing them make their way in life.

paddyann54 Sun 16-Aug-26 18:41:27

3 of mine are working two of those three still volunteer so time is short.When I visit they make sure they are in and usually have friends in too,otherwise they msg me and share videos of concerts and festivals and share new music finds with me.Usually around midnight…lol
I don’t expect to see as much of them though our 15 year old who volunteers in motorsport often invites Papa to events ,last week it was the whole weekend at the Touring cars.
It’s a joy to see them find things to enjoy that we have always enjoyed too.
Not that I,m biased (much) but they are all great young folk ,I,m happy to have whatever time they want to share with us.