Twice that is a beautiful poem,and you are right we are in a club no one wants to join ,and we didnt join through choice,when my infant daughter died was totally different from when my middle daughter died.No one knew how to deal with it so "crossed over" to avoid me as I came out of hospital with empty arms,she stayed in hosptial for all of her tiny life.
I wrote a poem for her For Cheryl 15.9.78-03.11.78
The angels watched as you where born
And said this child is ours
Soon we will take her to play
In Gods garden of beautiful flowers
They let me keep you for a while
To know your face
To know your smile
But very soon there came the day
When the angels came to say
Now is the time to come and play
In Gods garden of beautiful flowers
Kates death was very different,very public,a complex suspicious death with many still unanswered questions,it was in the papers and everyone knew,and couldnt wait "To be involved" thrill seekers,we held a massive memorial for her in celebration of her life 300 balloons of all colours released in the town square where the church was, there where many people she was well known and liked, a beautiful free spirit ,we had to wait 11 months for her funeral,3 years for a court case to be heard,3 years for the coroners court,and I spent 6years fighting for custody of E in the high court,the coroners verdict was suicide with the rider that she took her own life whilst experiencing violence and mental abuse.
I havent witten a tribute for kate but do my level best to look after her legacy to me the child she stayed with the father for,and literally gave her life for,so that she would have better.This is my tribute to Kate.
Katherine Marie 05.06.80-03-01-04.
I am so glad this thread is able to bring us together in celebrating our children no longer with us.
My closest friend whose children grew up alongside mine,has no idea of the pain I feel when sharing her daughters achievements and life and sharing and closeness,I am glad for her but it hurts..and I absolutely would be anywhere on my own on mothers day and so would E,that day is harder than the anniversary..
Bless you all..