Mothering Sunday and a lost child ...

What a sensitive and thoughtful OP Imperfect. Thank you. There are many ways to lose a child and Mothering Sunday does remind us of that

[hugs] and to all who are sad tomorrow.

And from me Kupari and all those mothers who will be missing their lost children tomorrow.

I lost my mother many years ago, but it still hurts, especially when supermarkets email me every day with their don't forget flowers for your mother message

Lovely thoughtful words it's such a sad day for for some.

Can't find the words so ....

My heart aches for all of you mourning the loss of loved ones.

This Mothers Day is hard as it is also the week of what should have been my son's 43rd birthday. I try to remain cheerful on Mothers Day for my daughter and her family,but there is always the thought that I should have two cards,not one. My son took his own life at 23, but he left behind a daughter,so I will always have something of him. He and his father,who died last year are together in the cemetery a short walk away and I go when I can.

for you all.
No comfort but I hope it helps just a little to know we have you all in our thoughts.

Oh wow, what a sad but inspirational post. Much love and hugs to all those who are struggling today of all days

Please may I add my thoughts to all those who are sad today? Sending much love and light to you all.

Joining with you all in thoughts for those who have lost their children. The sadness must never go away, and always difficult at this time.

My thoughts are with all who have found today a hard one, for whatever reason, and have a sore heart this Mother's Day. Shops full of cards and flowers fail to acknowledge that it's not necessarily a wholly happy day for everyone xx

Just had the family for lunch. Love and hugs to all our mums dads and grandparents who can't do such a simple thing.

We are fortunate to have 2DSs and 3 GCs between them. So many reasons to be happy today. But there's always a corner of my heart for our very first DS who was 'born sleeping'. to everyone who's finding it hard today for whatever reason. As one poster says, there are many ways to lose a child...

Our neighbours daughter gave birth to a (very) little boy 2weeks ago- 7 weeks premature. His Grandmother told us he survived for 6 days. So sad for them all today.

My love and best wishes to all mums who have not been happy today, for whatever reason.

Thank you Imperfect27 for your hugs and thoughts for those of us who have lost a child like you. I have a lovely card from DD1 and spent a good day with her,my SIL and two grandchildren BUT If only there were still two cards ,as I know there would have been from my beautiful l
ate, DD2. I also cannot stop thinking,even more than usual ,of her 2 daughters ,10 and 8, 300miles away in Wales. I hope they made cards for my SIL's new partner who is lovely and treats the girls as if they were her own. That is what keeps me going but I will always miss DD2 so very much!

Special hugs to you Janbattlle. My daughter took her own life 6 years ago ,aged 33,leaving 2 daughters then aged 4 and 2. She would have been 40 next month. A day I am dreading but hope to share with her sister here. My DH died suddenly in 2008- 16 months before I lost my DD.Life can be very cruel at times!

Taking of their own life seems to me the cruellest way of losing a child no matter how old.
It smacks of us not doing enough to make things right for them and when they leave children one wonders just how desperate they must have been.
I speak as someone whose child has tried on several occasions to do this. Things are much better now for us for some it is too late.

Special hugs to everyone who has lost a child of any age I spent a lovely day with my dd sil and GC, but the pain of losing my son is always in the background and looking at one card today where there should be two is so sad.

I cannot think of any thing worse than losing a child .my thoughts are with you .I hope the happy memories eventually overtake the sadness.xxx❤️❤️❤️

THANK YOU for all the brave, beautiful and supportive posts here - Gransnet at its best!

My heartfelt sympathy for all who have shared your losses here.

xxx

I am very glad that there is a Bereavement forum for so many of us to say what's on our mind in a supporting, understanding space. GN is a good place generally but having our own little corner makes it easier to say 'it's hit me out of the blue' and know that others will understand. Some have questioned the need in the last day or two but I am thankful for it's existence. I never understand why people attack - rather than ignore - something they don't like!

As for yesterday, it wasn't as bad as I feared. I'm glad to say that's often the case but every year I approach the day with dread...

mollie
I find the build up to things is often the worse part. Someone else posted here to say they understand why we say we are 'broken-hearted', because the pain is very physical at times. A couple of days before Mothering Sunday, I had the return of the old sensation that someone had stomped on my chest. It happens for me around anniversaries and special days - as you say, 'out of the blue' - and then I think to myself, I am grieving again. Quite often, when the day itself arrives, or very soon after, the pain disappears again.