The one thing this thread has done more than anything else is show just how close the relationship between adult siblings, especially ones of the same gender, is and how deep the grief and enduring sense of loss is, when that sibling dies.
When my DS died, in her 40s, my parents were still alive and everything was concentrated on how the deep the loss was for them, and I would do nothing to diminish the sense of loss parents feel at the loss of a child but I almost felt that outside the very close family the grief of myself and surviving sister at the loss was discounted.
Nothing was said, but there was a feeling that it was easier for us, we had 'only' lost a sister, we still had each other, that we were adults and were each ploughing our separate ways through life so the childhood bond (and don't sisters fight and see each other as rivals?) must have loosened so that we were less close than we might have been.
I was married with children, so it seemed to be felt that the fact that I had my own family meant I would be less affected by the loss of a sister.
This thread has shown just how untrue those assumptions, implicit rather than thought are. No matter how old we are, how our lives may have diverged, how we may now have families of our own, as may our sisters. the bond of sisters is very close, crafted in childhood and for most remaining so for the rest of our lives.
Our grief may be different to the grief we have for a parent, spouse our child, but it is as deep. But it is there and remains with us.
Thank you FionaC for starting this thread and revealing the sisterhood that links those of us who mourn, and will forever mourn, the death of a dearly beloved sister.
Last weekend, in Rutland, the first statue in Britain of the late Elizabeth II was unveiled.
Stabbing at a school in Wales this lunchtime.