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Death of sister

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FionaC Sun 10-Jul-16 19:18:49

My sister died today aged 65. How do you live without the best friend who knows you better than anyone and has been there every day of my life?

Anniebach Sun 10-Jul-16 19:37:28

I am so very sorry and have no answer, sisters are so special

Nelliemoser Sun 10-Jul-16 19:37:54

FionaC I am so sorry to here about your loss. Big (((hugs)))

Gagagran Sun 10-Jul-16 19:40:54

It happened to me last June Fiona. My eldest sister, who had been there all my life died suddenly the day before we were going on holiday. The shock and disbelief lasted a good while and then the disbelief was replaced by anger! A strange emotion to feel when in mourning but apparently quite normal.

It has taken me over a year to get used to the idea that she is gone and that never again will I get my Sunday afternoon phone call from her. You do adjust and stop thinking about your sister 24/7. At least I have and I hope - and believe that you will too. My condolences and sympathies to you. It will get easier I promise. flowers

Greyduster Sun 10-Jul-16 19:52:12

I am so sorry for your loss FionaC. I was the baby of our family and have lost both my sisters who were older and more like mums to me. They were havens of warmth and humour and role models and I miss them every day, but as others have said, it will get easier to bear with time. flowers

granjura Sun 10-Jul-16 20:34:49

I am so sorry Fiona. Hopefully one day you will be able to remember all the good times you shared and be happy what you had such a wonderful sister and confidente. I always wanted a sister, and was always envious of those who did and could share all with. 65 is far too young and so unfair (my age sad )... my heart goes out to you x

breeze Sun 10-Jul-16 20:35:31

So sorry for your lost FionaC. I lost my darling sister in 2014. She was only 68. I miss her so much. I lost my mother when I was 8 years old, so my two older sisters looked after me. I can only say that it takes time for the pain to ease. At first I felt traumatised, then angry, then an ache that wouldn't go away. So many things I have in my home she bought for me would bring fresh tears with every reminder. But as the time has passed, I can now think of her in happier times. Remember all the fun we had and somehow, the sadness has eased and been replaced with lovely memories of someone so very special. It just takes time. Sending you deepest sympathies and understanding.

morethan2 Sun 10-Jul-16 20:47:28

Oh FionaC I am so sorry for your the loss of your sister. Sending you condolences. I don't know the answer to your question because I'd feel the same if I lost my sister. Your post has really touched me and although there's nothing I can do please know I'm thinking of you

nanaK54 Sun 10-Jul-16 20:51:45

So very sorry for your loss

Nana3 Sun 10-Jul-16 20:52:59

I am so sorry for your loss Fiona, it is very early days for you but I hope you can find some comfort from reading our stories.
My brother died 10 years ago next month, I think of him everyday, but as others have said I remember happy and funny times too and love talking about him. He was a great story teller and the fount of all knowledge.

Jalima Sun 10-Jul-16 21:08:43

I never had a sister, but my best friend, who was just like a sister to me, died very suddenly.
I miss having someone I can share my thoughts with who would never speak about them to anyone else and who always had a sensible answer to a problem.

Try to remember the good times, my BF still speaks to me in my head when I have a problem

f77ms Sun 10-Jul-16 21:14:54

So very sorry about your sister . I can`t imagine life without mine , she is my best friend so imagine you are devastated as I would be . I hope you have people around you for support at this very sad time xxxxx

M0nica Sun 10-Jul-16 21:31:59

Fiona I send every sympathy to you. My younger sister died 25 years ago at the age of 45. I still miss her.

Remember the good times, but also all the things in her that drove you mad. My youngest sister and I often reminisce, happily, about the quirks in our sister's personality that drove us wild; the messages never delivered, how she was always late, but also her thoughtfulness, daintiness, and love of all her family.

cornergran Sun 10-Jul-16 21:41:29

Fiona so sorry for your loss. flowers

SueDonim Sun 10-Jul-16 23:17:07

I'm so sorry, Fiona. I have an older sister too and can only imagine your devastation. sad

PRINTMISS Mon 11-Jul-16 08:02:47

That is so sad for you, a big hole left, but hopefully happy memories. Take care of yourself for a little while now.

kittylester Mon 11-Jul-16 08:08:32

I am so sorry to hear about your

I don't have a sister and envy you having had such a good relationship with yours. Enjoy your happy memories

Indinana Mon 11-Jul-16 08:43:53

That is such sad news Fiona, such a hard thing for you to adjust to. I too have a sister and the thought of losing her is unbearable. My heart goes out to you flowers

Teetime Mon 11-Jul-16 09:07:09

Oh Fiona that is very sad news my sincere condolences on your

CariGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 11-Jul-16 09:27:39

Our condolences to you Fiona - such very sad news

Anya Mon 11-Jul-16 09:28:41

Fiona I'm so sorry. It's too early yet I know but one day you will be able to remember the good times you had together and the memories you shared.

I lost my younger sister to breast cancer last year. But in truth I lost her long, long before that to alcohol addiction.

shysal Mon 11-Jul-16 09:31:18

So sorry to hear your dreadful news, Fiona. Look after yourself. flowers

annsixty Mon 11-Jul-16 09:36:48

So sorry Fiona being an only child myself I can't imagine your loo. No-one can take away all the happy years you had together and in time all those memories will comfort you.

annsixty Mon 11-Jul-16 09:37:52

Oh dear how did your loss become your loo blush

FionaC Mon 11-Jul-16 10:00:47

Thank you for the posts, funnily they are comforting just difficult to read through the tears. Thank you all x