I lost my dear old mum today..

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My lovely Mum died 6 weeks ago. She had been in hospital on and off for two years more in hospital than at home.
I have never in my life felt so much pain, but I'm so grateful that I had two wonderful parents. I console myself by thinking of the so many young children who loose their Mums at an early age. I at least had 62years of love & life with her. We had our moments sometimes stormy but never loved her or she me any the less. Cherish and hold onto the Happy Memories

Dear MissAdventure, my mum also died 6 December, 7 years ago. Really sorry to read about your mum Jean, it's such a strange time, I was all over the place. I wasn't shocked, but it was a shock if that makes sense. Look after yourself, you will get through it. With love xx

My thoughts are with you MissAdventure and all who are in the same position. Take care of yourselves. (((hugs)))

So sorry, I lost my Mum in Jan 2004 she was 98. We lived together so I missed her greatly. Sadly my only relative, my brother died in 2010 could not believe he had only lived till 6 years after my Mum. He always thought he would live till her age. It looks like it will be me. I hope you have someone close to help.

Sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you may find the following reading to be a comfort:

She Is Gone - by David Harkins
You can shed tears that she is gone
or you can smile because she has lived.

You can close your eyes and wish that she will come back
or you can open your eyes and see all she has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see her
or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember her and only that she's gone
or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back

or you can do what she would want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

So sorry for your loss,especially at this time of year. I try and think she is still with me and it really helps xxx

A very sad loss, sending warm wishes to you. xxx

Bless you such a hard thing to cope with. You are lucky you have all her goodness as part of the pattern of your life. Thinking of you and sending love.

Sorry to hear about your mum - even sadder this time of year xx

Guard your memories with love, one day you will be able to look back at them with less pain. I send you fortitude.

You have my deepest sympathy, MissAd,I lost mine some years ago and I still catch myself talking to her.

'Expected but unexpected'...always a terrible shock. Give yourself lots of time to grieve and come to terms with the loss. Especially with your mother, it can't be hurried. ?

Thank you so much everyone. StoryNanny, sending hugs your way.
I'm touched beyond words
I truly didn't realise just how difficult this would be; what a wrench the loss would be.
Sending hugs to all and everyone who has suffered the loss of a loved one, whether recent or in times gone past x x x

Condolences and hugs MissAdventure and storynanny. The anniversary of my own beautiful mamma's death comes up next week. Your posts brought it all back. Do read this moving poem by Emily Dickinson:

The Bustle in a House
The Morning after Death
Is solemnest of industries
Enacted upon Earth

The Sweeping if the Heart
And putting Love away
We shall not want to use again
Until Eternity

( capitals are the poet's)

So sorry to hear about your Mum MissAdventure, may God bless her and you.

for those who have recently lost parents.

MissAdventure and storynanny my condolences to you both at this sad time for you.

So sorry for your loss storynanny your dear dad meant so much to you. No matter our own age that sense of being orphaned is hard .

absent, so true.

Storynana so sorry to read of your loss too x

Storynana - sorry to hear your sad news too.

Really sorry to read that youve lost your dear mum ?....forever now a Christmas star ⭐

When a Mum or Dad dies they leave a Mum- or Dad-shaped space in your heart that no one else can ever fill. It's like an empty room. You can cover it with metaphorical dust sheets, lock the door and never go in there again or you can walk in there whenever you like and relive the family holidays, the celebration when you got your first job or your wedding day, the endless kindnesses and thoughtful moments, the love, the happy memories, the laughter and the tears. You can cry and laugh, feel sad and rejoice.

Immediately after they have died the pain is so acute that it feels as if you will never be yourself agin, but you will. If you loved them, they will always be a part of you – and if you are a parent and grandparent – part of your present and future family and you will rediscover the special joys you can still find in your empty room.

Dear MissAdventure, I am so sorry that your dear mother has passed away. My condolences to you and your family. May your memories of her keep you strong in the difficult days ahead.