I can remember as a child spending many a funeral in the kitchen with the women making the sandwiches for the return of the men / as s woman you could go if you were the daughter, sister, wife or mother / otherwise you stayed home and catered. You couldn't go if you were pregnant however close you were - my Mum told of how she missed her fathers service as she was pregnant with my brother.
Throw a flower head from a wreath into the grave - not earth.
A wake after - sandwiches, tea, cake and maybe one sherry, whisky or small beer if the family weren't tea-total. You tip the funeral director with a folded note on being driven to the wake, to buy the undertakers a drink, normally the chief male mourner does this subtly- it fell to my husband at my mothers funeral to perfect the in detectable £50 pass when the car door was opened.
Alphabetical girls and boys names January 2024