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My mother died today

(36 Posts)
Cherrytree59 Mon 27-Feb-17 16:46:52

Condolences angib
My father also died before I made it to the nursing home.
I tried but it was not to be.
Like you I was felt so bad
But the funeral gave me the chance to say my goodbyes as it will you.
It will be two years this Easter and now I just look back with a smile
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shysal thank you for that thought.

shysal Mon 27-Feb-17 16:35:40

Condolences from me too angib. flowers Don't beat yourself up over not being there. In my experience the dying often choose to go when they are alone.

cornergran Mon 27-Feb-17 16:31:39

Sorry to hear of your loss, angib, what matters is that you would have been with your mother if it was possible. Take care of yourself now.

Antonia Mon 27-Feb-17 16:25:34

I am sorry to read this Angib. There is no need for guilty feelings, you loved each other and that's the important thing. flowers

Teetime Mon 27-Feb-17 15:55:08

angi I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds as though you were doing you best to put things right between you so please don't give yourself a hard time - you did your best. flowers

tanith Mon 27-Feb-17 15:46:33

Condolences from me as the others have said you were doing your best to get there. flowers

kittylester Mon 27-Feb-17 15:40:34

Condolences from me too, angi. flowers

My mum died last week and we had a very strange relationship. You were trying your best to be there, you could do no more.

Lona Mon 27-Feb-17 15:38:33

Angib Condolences flowers You were both trying to make things right, so don't feel guilty. I wasn't there when my mum died either.

whitewave Mon 27-Feb-17 15:36:47

Oh angib I am so sorry. You will be able to say goodbye at her funeral

ninathenana Mon 27-Feb-17 15:33:55

Sincere condolences Angib
Please don't feel bad that you weren't there I wasn't when my mum died either. You were making the effort, it's sad that the timing was bad but it happens.

Angib Mon 27-Feb-17 15:29:58

And I couldn't get to see her and say goodbye. We had been estranged for a little while but were slowly building bridges. She was admitted to hospital overnight and whilst on my way to see her she passed and now I feel so bad.