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(61 Posts)
MissAdventure Fri 12-Jan-18 22:22:05

Do grandparents have rights to see their grandchildren these days? Might it be worth getting some legal advice?

paddyann Fri 12-Jan-18 22:17:05

I think like a lot of us he didn't know how to cope with your daughters illness and you calling him out on his treatment of her made him feel guilty...my daughter has a serious illness and her husband is the same...he is often critical when she cant manage to do things he wants.Remember too that he was grieving his wife even before she died and his grief will still..like yours be raw.Maybe you could write to him or give a letter to his mum /family so you know he gets it and explain that it was your hurt and grief that made you speak out.Not that you were wrong but if you can apologise he may be more accepting of the GC seeing you.Tell him that you worry about them losing their mum and you as you have been so close.I hope you can work it out with him as I agree the GC need you more now than ever.I wish you well and I hope you and he can make your peace

Anniebach Fri 12-Jan-18 21:50:18

I am so very sorry. May I ask if you got on well with him before your daughters illness ?

Matriark Fri 12-Jan-18 21:42:21

This is so sad! My heart goes out to you both. No advice, I’m afraid, but kind thoughts and virtual hugs.

Grannyknot Fri 12-Jan-18 21:39:26

sad this is heartbreaking.

No advice just so very sorry for your loss.

JoyBloggs Fri 12-Jan-18 21:23:06

I'm so sorry, debohun, I have no words of advice but just wanted to offer my deepest sympathy. flowers

And my sincere sympathy to you MissAdventure flowers

MissAdventure Fri 12-Jan-18 21:01:34

Thanks crafting.

cornergran Fri 12-Jan-18 20:59:30

My sympathy for you both and anyone else who has experienced such a deeply felt loss. No advice debohun other than keep writing, there is always someone to listen. The only thing to remember is this is an open forum which can be accessed by anyone and threads can sometimes appear elsewhere. I hope you will feel able to seek support here. flowers.

Crafting Fri 12-Jan-18 20:51:35

No advice but heartfelt sympathy to you debohun and you too missAdventure.

MissAdventure Fri 12-Jan-18 20:47:24

Hi, you can keep writing as much as you need to, and will find a lot of support and compassion here. I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter, and I can't imagine how it feels to have your grandchildren taken away too.
My own daughter died of cancer last November. flowers

debohunXL5 Fri 12-Jan-18 20:37:54

Hi I'm new on Gransnet. I lost my daughter on 14th April 2017 She was 37 and had terminal cancer. She had only 7 months from diagnosis to when she passed. She has two children A son aged 8 and a daughter aged 5. I helped my daughter with childcare and saw them almost every day from when they were born. As soon as she passed my SIL would not let us see them. This stems from the fact that I confronted him about how he was not looking after my D when she was so seriously ill. (She had come to me sobbing about his behaviour towards her and we witnessed some of his behaviour also). As a mother I could not stand by and let this happen so confronted him about it and instead of talking about it he went off in a temper. So when she passed he would not let us see the children and has now moved 3 hours away. We sent christmas presents via my eldest son but he has rejected them and even sent back their christmas cards. We have been so ill over this how could he do this to his children they have lost their mummy and also lost us I hate to think that they are pining for us. We are so devastated and i know we could possibly apply to the courts but I think he is already saying horrible things about us to the children and if they rejected us we would be even more devastated. Just writing this is helping.